How about writing your eulogy today?

Have you ever written your eulogy? A eulogy is a formal memorial speech delivered when someone dies and usually at their funeral. We have all been to a funeral where we were very moved by the oration that a friend, family member or pastor gave. Most of the time, these were written after the person died. Sometimes they hit the mark and really describe the person and other times not as well. What someone would say about us, might not be what we would want to say ourselves. Unfortunately, there is no coming back after the fact to write our own eulogy. However, you can write one now.

Why would anyone want to write their own eulogy you might ask? Not because you will be better able to tell the truth about yourself; though this would be a pleasant change from the usual glowing eulogies. The answer is because it can help you to see what is most important in your life. It will help you to address the issue of whether you are really working towards what is important. When you are dead and buried will you be remembered for what you were trying to accomplish in life? Perhaps not! But perhaps thinking about what you would like to be remembered for now can help focus you on your goal.

This is a common exercise in many human relations classes. It is very simple. Just imagine that you are at your own funeral. The speaker is up on the podium getting ready to talk about you to the assemblage of friends and families. What would you like that person to say about you? What activities, events, goals and aspirations do you want to be remembered for? Write them all down. You have now written your own eulogy.

Now for the hard part! Looking over your eulogy, how does it sound? Is it realistic? Do you think someone would really say that about you now? Why or why not? What would you have to do to change in your life to make your eulogy real? How much time do you have to change your life around? It is never to late too start!

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  1. nancykkkkk
    Oct 30, 2021 @ 14:44:00

    I just finished mine; actually 2 of them. One the ‘professional’ version with the details of my life and common life events like degrees, graduation,, marriages, etc. The other is about always having skinned knees as a kid, loving to laugh, pursuing writing in my 6th decade, etc.
    It’s an interesting exercise. Now I’m going to have my husband or daughter read it.

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  2. Jane Fritz
    Oct 31, 2021 @ 16:08:29

    Lol. It’s an intriguing thought, but I think I’ll leave that job to someone else!

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    • Dr. John Persico Jr.
      Nov 06, 2021 @ 09:46:25

      Jane, it is kind of thought provoking to do. Recently I thought of the concept by the NE Times writer of the difference between resume Values and eulogy Values. Some people mix the two and their eulogies sound more like resumes. I wonder if our resumes should not have more of eulogy values in them. Just a thought. John

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