Were the Good Old Days Really Happy Days?

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Once upon a time there were the “Good Old Days.”  Now before you laugh or proclaim, “Oh No, not another Geezer gig;” allow me to issue some disclaimers.  First, If you are not at least 60 years old, you will not remember the “Good Old Days”.  The “Good Old Days” took place in the USA between 1954 and 1964.  They have also been called “The Happy Days.”  If you are under 60, you will be too young to remember these days.  Second, if you are an African American, you may not subscribe to my paean to “Happy Days”.  You will more than likely have had recurring experiences of overt racism in a country using Jim Crow laws to keep Blacks in their place and to put as many in prison as possible.

If you are Gay or LGBTQI+, you also may not remember these times very fondly.  Chances are you were forced to deny your sexual preferences and had to watch out on the streets for fear of being molested and assaulted.  If you are a woman, you might not remember these times very fondly either.  Back then, a woman’s place was said to be in the kitchen and her role was to be barefoot and pregnant.  There was no place for women in politics, business, military, or senior positions in any organization.  When it comes to other minorities, Jews, Latinos, Asians, Pacific Islanders, all would have stories of subtle and not so subtle discrimination during the “Good Old Days”.

But there is no denying that a large number of Americans do look back upon some of these days with a great deal of fondness.  I am one of them.  I do not tend to be overly nostalgic.  I do not spend much time looking back.  However, I have to admit, as a young White male during the period of time noted, life was not so bad.  The same was true for many older White men as well.  Even some of the groups excluded or ostracized by mainstream America during this period had a few exceptions.  People of color and other minority groups who may look back upon at least a few of these days with happy memories as well.

I was eight years old in 1954.  My age of innocence ended in 1964 along with many other young men who heard the Siren calls of war in Asia.  “Come save America from the Communists.  If you don’t stop them in Vietnam, before you know it, they will be in California.”  Kennedy was assassinated in 1963 and we put a man on the moon in 1969.  I joined the USAF in 1964 to save the USA from “Godless Communism.”  It would be another two years before I learned what is true of most wars.  They are waged by stupid people for stupid reasons and the people who suffer the most during these wars have the least to gain.

With these disclaimers out of the way, what are some good things that I remember about “My Good Old Days.”  Remember this is looking back and comparing the old days to the times I am now living in.  Some of these good things might not have been as good as I thought, but back then I was still in my “Days of Innocence” as well as in the my “Happy Days”.  Here is my list of good memories from the “Good Old Days:”

  1. Little evidence of environmental degradation
  2. No climate change
  3. Never heard of serial killers
  4. No worry about getting shot in school
  5. Plenty of snow during the winter to play in
  6. Water was drinkable everywhere and lakes were clean
  7. Floods and other natural disasters were much rarer
  8. I could walk to school by myself
  9. There were no anti-heroes only heroes
  10. Never heard of pedophiles
  11. I did not have to worry about a razor blade being put in an apple on Halloween
  12. Movies were 25 cents and candy was five and ten cents. Popcorn was 15 cents
  13. Gas was 21 cents per gallon and hamburger was 12 cents per pound
  14. Mom was home when I got out of school to make me a snack
  15. Lots of time to play sandlot ball on Saturdays with my friends
  16. The USA was in a brief period of peace between the end of the Korean War in 1953 and the ramp up of the Vietnam War in 1964
  17. We still had large family gatherings since people were not spread all over the globe or country
  18. We had bright starry nights since light pollution was not prevalent in many areas
  19. No concealed carry. You did not worry about being mowed down on the street by some maniac with a gun
  20. The Boy Scouts were still a respected group
  21. The really bad kids in school were those who chewed gum
  22. School bullying was uncommon
  23. Obesity was uncommon
  24. No such thing as road rage
  25. I could make a few bucks with a paper route
  26. The USA was at its peak of economic prominence. We were the major exporters of goods to the world
  27. Grid lock had not become common on our highways
  28. People were able to make a living on family farms and family fishing boats
  29. Speed limits were sensible
  30. Teachers, lawyers, and politicians were respected
  31. The average inflation rate in the United States between 1954 and 1964 was 1.37% per year
  32. Economic prosperity: The economy overall grew by 37% during the 1950s and unemployment remained low, about 4.5%.  At the end of the decade, the median American family had 30% more purchasing power than at the beginning.

Times have changed a bit.  No doubt you could make an even bigger list of good things going on today.  But there is no denying that once upon a time in a land called the USA, there was a set of days that for many people will never be forgotten.  For those of us who lived well during this period, we can’t deny our feelings of regret that so many of the things in my list have become shadows of the past.

Tell Me About the Good Old Days” by the Judds

Grandpa, tell me ’bout the good old days

Sometimes it feels like this world’s gone crazy

Grandpa, take me back to yesterday

When the line between right and wrong

Didn’t seem so hazy

Did lovers really fall in love to stay

And stand beside each other, come what may?

Was a promise really something people kept

Not just something they would say

Did families really bow their heads to pray?

Did daddies really never go away?

 

Whoa, whoa, grandpa, tell me ’bout the good old days

Grandpa, everything is changing fast

We call it progress, but I just don’t know

And grandpa, let’s wander back into the past

Then paint me the picture of long ago.

I Wonder Who’s Curious Today?

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I wonder how many great novels have started out with these two words: “I Wonder?”  Ok, I am curious, so I will find out.  “Google, how many great novels have started with the words: ‘I wonder’?”   Well, I found “Wonder” a great book about children who are different and Natalie Merchant’s beautiful song “Wonder” about the same subject, but no list of great novels.  I will try again: “Novels beginning with the words ‘I wonder’.”

Wow, now I have found a list of some interesting books.  Foremost among the list of books is “I Wonder as I Wander: An Autobiographical Journey: by Langston Hughes.

In I Wonder as I Wander, Langston Hughes vividly recalls the most dramatic and intimate moments of his life in the turbulent 1930s.

His wanderlust leads him to Cuba, Haiti, Russia, Soviet Central Asia, Japan, Spain (during its Civil War), through dictatorships, wars, revolutions. He meets and brings to life the famous and the humble, from Arthur Koestler to Emma, the Black Mammy of Moscow. It is the continuously amusing, wise revelation of an American writer journeying around the often strange and always exciting world he loves.

Now I am getting somewhere.  Although sadly, Mr. Hughes stole the title of my proposed next book.  But I will let it go.  I am sure I can think of another title.  But the point that I am thinking about is that wonder and curiosity is or should be the essence of our lives.  “Once upon a time” is probably the most popular starting words for many stories, but I propose that “I wonder” should be the start of any journey.  More stories need to start with “I Wonder.”

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I wonder why they do not?  I think I know.  Schools do not encourage wonder and curiosity. Schools encourage learning the right answers to pass tests.  Society does not encourage wonder and curiosity.  How many times have you heard “Curiosity killed the cat?”  Of course, the retort is “And satisfaction brought it back.”  But there is already the societal warning that curiosity can kill you.  Consider one of the most famous anti-heroines in history and her story about wonder and curiosity.

debfcabe3a329e58d451650b7bbe3120653267d4r1-299-371v2_uhqPandora was the first human woman created by Hephaestus on the instructions of Zeus.  Pandora was a curious woman.  She was given a jar or box by the conniving Zeus with all the evils of the world.   Being a woman (sexism at its earliest) she could not resist peaking in the box.  So she opened it and inadvertently allowed all the evils within lose upon the world.  The only thing that did not fly out of the box was the spirit of Hope which remained in the box when Pandora put the lid back on.  Thus to this day, our world is full of evil but balance always by the ever-present Hope that things will be better.  Nothing could be more fitting than Hope for the times we live in today.

Here is a great song to listen to about Pandora’s Box by David Francey

Now, I have been teaching since 1975, on and off. I have taught every grade from preschool, to elementary school to high school and up though grad school.  There are trends and fads in teaching like in business and society.  Many argue every year about what the “core curriculum” of a school should be.  Some say math is essential, some say English is essential.  Some want civility to be added to the curriculum and some are still fighting over the dreaded “Sex education.”

One of the most popular subjects today is “Critical Thinking Skills.”  Every single teacher in America believes that “Critical Thinking” should be part of every curriculum yet less than five percent of any curriculum is allotted to these skills. There simply is not enough time to teach everything that people want to see taught.  Particularly, when we have standardized tests to prepare for and a believe that what was good for the Greeks and Middle Ages is still valid today.

Here is a great song for the curious:  “Be Curious” with English lyrics by Humood Alkhuder

I could leave every one of these subjects behind.  It is my belief that schools should only teach one thing.  That thing would be “wonder and curiosity.”  I doubt if anyone would agree with me.  I can hear the arguments now: “Schools must prepare children for life.”  “Schools must prepare children for jobs.”  “Schools must prepare children for society.”

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Just think for a second.  What if schools actually did teach children to be more curious?  What if they taught children to wonder about the world, to wonder about life, to wonder about people?  What would anyone imbued with a sense of wonder be like?

5 Benefits of Being A Curious Person by Leigh Weingus

  1. It can strengthen your relationships.
  2. It can help protect your brain.
  3. It can help you overcome anxiety.
  4. It correlates with happiness.
  5. It can help you learn pretty much anything.

You will find many articles about the virtue of curiosity on the web.  You will also find many of the components of curiosity.  Whether or not we can teach curiosity is perhaps another issue.  I have seen little in my many years of education that show we have the desire or knowledge to teach children to be curious.  If anything, I think curiosity is an innate trait which rather than nurture we do the best to kill.  Children ask fewer and fewer questions as they progress through our school systems.

‘Schools are killing curiosity’: why we need to stop telling children to shut up and learn – The Guardian

Imagine if you will that kids were not taught answers but were taught questions.  Anyone who has ever raised a child knows that they are the most curious little creatures on the face of the earth.  But right from childhood on, we do our best to extinguish this innate curiosity.

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Imagine if kids who asked, “who made the world?” or “why do I have to do that?” were given the quest to investigate and come back with their own opinions.  Imagine if children who asked, “why are some people racist?” or “why do people hurt other people?” were told “Well, I don’t really know, but can you research this and come back and tell the class what you have found out?”

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Imagine if we had leaders who asked more questions and looked more to experts to help solve social problems rather than political polls.  Imagine if politicians were curious about life and wanted to explore life rather than control it.  Imagine if stories written in newspapers and the media were less biased and more honest about what is known and what is not known.

“The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existence. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery each day.  — —”Old Man’s Advice to Youth: ‘Never Lose a Holy Curiosity.'” LIFE Magazine (2 May 1955) p. 64” — Albert Einstein