Aging Capriciously

Went to the mailbox this morning and what did I find?  Right, another “Vote for Me” flyer!  I started to throw it away but as I find it difficult not to at least scan any piece of written literature (I use the term loosely here), I noticed it had pictures of both Barrett and Walker on it. I should mention that it also included a third party candidate named Trivedi whom I had never heard of.  I suddenly was very interested in this flyer. Was it a Walker ad somehow lampooning Barrett or was it a Barrett ad somehow lampooning Walker? It seemed very strange having both of their pictures on the same ad. There was a mystery here. Sorry Wilma\Wanda, I could not resist putting these pictures here.  🙂

For those of you who are not from Wisconsin, I should back up a little. On June 5^th we are having a recall election for the present Governor named Scott Walker.  Walker is a Republican who has managed to offend a great deal of the electorate.  To his detractors he is an evil villain out to undo 100 years of labor history by marginalizing unions and stripping public employees of their pensions and other benefits. To his supporters and in fact those who voted him in by quite a margin, he is a hero.  To the latter, he is a staunch defender of free enterprise and the rights of the little man who has been plagued by big government and lazy overpaid union workers. 

After Walker successfully attempted to make some changes in pensions and union rights, a large number of Wisconsin residents drew up a recall petition to force another election.  Over 500,000 Wisconsin voters signed this petition. The election is scheduled for June 5, 2012.  Walker has or will spend over 25 million dollars in advertising and Barrett (Former Democratic Mayor of Milwaukee) will spend about 1 million (Since that is all Barrett has).  I have not a clue how much Trivedi will spend since I never even heard of him until looking at this flyer.

So back to the strange mysterious flyer.  Were Walker and Barrett supporting anything together?  Were they somehow saying anything nice about each other?  Could this flyer be some sort of a bipartisan reaching across the aisle, if so, for what purpose?  Did this flyer signal a shift in electioneering from the negative to the positive side?  Reading the materials they have already sent out, it does not sound like they could be in the same room together without hurting each other.  Both have loudly proclaimed each other to be out and out liars.  What could they possibly be doing together to show any harmony or kindness to each other much less to benefit the people of Wisconsin? Was there some sort of subliminal message embedded in the ad that would induce me to vote for one candidate or the other?  I did not want to be too quick to assume any well-meaning intentions in this flyer.  Some enlightenment might be attained by finding out which one of the many “Friends of” committees paid for this ad.

Well, reading on (the Flyer that is) I was pleasantly surprised. Here is what the ad copy said:

“It’s time to do our civic duty.  Be sure to do your duty and vote. The only way to ensure a positive result for Wisconsin is for as many citizens as possible to vote on June 5.  Your Vote is Your Choice.” Paid for by the Legacy Foundation, Iowa. 

A little investigation shows that the mission of the Legacy Foundation is to:

I could not detect any conspiracy theory here.  Thus, I was shocked but also very pleased.  Here was an ad (seemingly bi-partisan) that is actually extolling people to vote.  An ad that is not telling you who to vote for but simply reminding people that it is their responsibility and privilege to participate in the most important process in America.  Despite the wars and deaths sacrificed to preserve this freedom, most Americans do not vote.  In fact, do you realize that only about 50 percent of Americans usually vote in the Presidential election and less vote in most other elections?  It is very likely that more Americans will watch the Super Bowl than will turn out to vote in November.  It is also likely than the upcoming recall election will be decided by a minority of the electorate in Wisconsin.  This is not sad or a shame, it is an outrage.  Below are the actual voter figures from 1960 to 2010.

This page provides information about voter statistics, including age of voting population, voter registration, turnout, and more.

*Source 2008 election results: http://elections.gmu.edu/Turnout_2008G.html.

Read more: National Voter Turnout in Federal Elections: 1960–2010 — Infoplease.com http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0781453.html#ixzz1wOx9Lwom

The flyer went on to say “ON JUNE 5^th, YOUR VOTE IS IMPORTANT.”  Dam right, your vote is important.  Whether you are Republican or Democratic or Independent, it is the most important right and responsibility that you have in America. It has often been said (In fact, I say it often myself) that “People get the government and the politicians they deserve.”  If you would rather be watching the baseball game on Election Day or some idiotic television sitcom, then you have absolutely no right to complain about your government or the quality of the politicians that serve you in office. My good friend and mentor Sister Giovanni often said:  “People want rights without responsibilities.” 

For more than a generation now, we have been hearing about the “entitlement” generation. This is simply people who want their rights without any responsibilities.  This is nothing but lazy mindless thinking and behaving.  Sister G also said “For every right there is a corresponding responsibility.”  If you want to live in a free country, if you want a choice of who runs your country, if you want to be able to walk the streets a free person with the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness, you have to pay for it. There are no free lunches. Your payment is the responsibilities you must undertake to ensure and protect the freedoms I have mentioned. One of the most important of these responsibilities is that of being informed. Meaning you take the time to learn about the records and backgrounds of those running for office.  Most important (to restate it again) is that you get out and vote.

Are you registered to vote?  Do you know where your voting place is? Have you arranged your time to fit in voting?  Do you know the records of those running? Have you selected a candidate based on a solid knowledge of facts and not rhetoric? Are you making up your own mind or are you going along with your friends and relatives?  Are you looking at who will do the best job both long and short term or are you only worried about who will help you make the most money in the short term?  Are you as concerned with the social, global, environmental and ethical policies of your candidate as you are with his/her economic policies  Do you realize that without a future there will be no tomorrow’s?  

“I recommend you to have a firm and generous proposal to always serve God with all your heart.  Do not worry about tomorrow. Think about doing good today.  And when tomorrow comes, it will be today and then you can think about it.” –  Padre Pio, July 4, 1917. 

A few years ago, Karen and I went to Italy to visit. We visited Rome and did all the traditional sites. We saw the Vatican, the Pieta, the Spanish Steps, the Coliseum and many other famous sites that now elude me.  After a week of Rome, we left for the town of Quadrelle outside of Naples.  We love to spend time in both city and country, leaning more heavily to the time we can spend in the more rural areas. Quadrelle was a fabulous little town in the Campania region of Italy. It was close to the Amalfi Coast as well as many attractions such as Pompeii, the Isle of Capri and the Castle at Caserta. In addition, it was smaller and friendlier than Rome.

One of the things that struck me in this small town and the surrounding area was the love that the local people had for a monk named Padre Pio.  There was a statue of him in a little park in town.  Before coming to Italy, I had only passing acquaintance with him and no real knowledge of his life. To me, he was just another “Saint” or perhaps someone whom they were debating over sainthood.  To the locals, there was no question that he was a saint. One might think he became a saint because of great accomplishments, great deeds or great heroics. However, it was just the opposite. Padre Pio was a very simple man. He was not high up in any orders of the church hierarchy.  In fact, for many years, his own church persecuted him as a fraud and psycho.  Today he is loved because he was a very wise and kind man. The quote above is from one of his many letters explaining how to live more fully.

Many great spiritual traditions advise us to live in the present and not worry about things we cannot fix or times that we have no control over. Nevertheless, many of us spend our time needlessly worrying about the future and forget about living for today. What can you do today that would add some measure of good to the world? The Boy Scouts say: “Do a good deed daily.” That’s not such a bad idea. Doing a good deed each day is a great way to live in the present. What is one “good deed” you can do for someone today?  

Have you ever gone “in search of lost time?”  Is it really possible to find lost time?  Is it like losing your keys?  How do we lose time?  Do we simply forget to where we put it or does it fall out of our pockets?  Or is it more like losing your memory?  Where do we go to search for lost time?  Have you ever found lost time in a closet or under your bed?  What do you do with it if you do find it?  

What if you could not lose time? What if it were simply a metaphor for the way we squander and consume our time in wasteful ways?  For instance, how often have you sat in a traffic jam on the way to work or how often have you been kept waiting in a doctor’s office for an appointment.  Or have you ever had one of those days where you just were not able to accomplish anything and then the day was over. Each of these situations probably felt like “lost time.”

Where does all this lost time go?  Somewhere in the world, there must be a treasure trove of lost and stolen time.  It is the greatest treasure ever accumulated since the time of Solomon.  Think about all the time we lose every day in traffic jams, missed appointments, downtimes, equipment failures, poor instructions, missed communications and simple forgetfulness.  Unfortunately, even the most avid treasure seekers will probably never find this fortune trove of time. 

What if you could try real hard and never lose time again?  “Impossible” you might say, “How can I speed up traffic or the doctor?”  If we have no control over our time then it might be proper to blame time robbers and not ourselves for lost time.  “A thief stole my time today.”   How often do we blame others or blame fate for our “lost time?” How many days a year do you lose your time?  How many days a year is time stolen from you by a time robber?  Is it ever your fault when you lose time or is someone else always to blame.  Do you think there are ways you could cut down on losing your time?

Today among all the other good things you have to celebrate, most of all of course the people that gave their lives to protect our freedom and way of life, I want to remind you all to be grateful that the world will not end in December. By now, I am sure that most of you know the world was scheduled to end (according to the Mayan Calendar) on December 21^st, 2012.  However, Good News!   Recent research has uncovered hidden data in the Mayan files that shows the original estimate is wrong.  Without too much ado as to the exact evidence, it is now conclusive.  We have about another 4000 years to go until the earth ends. 

So, please go about your picnics, ball games, cemetery visits and customary day off with a lightened heart.  You will not have to share the graveyard with the brave soldiers and warriors that went before you anytime in the near future. Of course, whatever wild and crazy activities that you undertake may have a deleterious effect on your longevity, but you participate in these at your own volition.  Many of our fallen soldiers did not really have the choice.  Sports risk is a great deal different than the risk of serving your country during wartime. The rest of us (at least those not serving in a current war) can stay out of harms way and be around for many more holidays.  In fact, if the new evidence on the Mayan calendar is correct, we have 56,000 more holidays to go before the end of the world. That is a lot of hot dogs and brats.

Many of our soldiers are not sitting over a grill today eating burgers and drinking beer. At this very moment, they are going about their duties looking over their shoulders for a sniper and wondering if the young child they see coming towards them has a bomb strapped to their person. The football hero may get a bad hit but it is in the rules of the game and he will pick up a hefty paycheck at the end of the week.  A large number of service people will come back with missing arms and legs. They will face enormous medical bills that they cannot pay and may have little chance of any future earnings.  So today, be glad that you have many more years on this earth, but do indeed pay tribute and respect for those who have  gone before you and also to those who are still serving and protecting.  

 

Who do you celebrate today for helping to support democracy and freedom in the world?  Have you ever thanked a veteran or a service man or woman  for helping to keep you safe and able to live in the greatest country on earth?  Do you do what you can to help our country remain true to the ideas of the founding fathers? Do you vote and participate in the democratic process that is your privilege and your responsibility? Do you sit idly on the sidelines watching the football games or do you pay attention to the politics governing our country and the backgrounds of the people running for elected office?  Do you know as much about your elected officials and you do your paid State Quarterback? 

How much is your time worth?  This is a question often considered by some and seldom considered by many. As we get older, time becomes more precious since it becomes in shorter and shorter supply.  Like everything else in life, time also adheres to the law of supply and demand.  When you start off your life, you have more time to spend that when you turn eighty.  Thank about the last day of your life.  How much money would you give to have one more day to live?  How much of your wealth would you be willing to pay for one more day of life?  

We value our time differently depending on who asks for it and what it is going to be used for.  Some people like to fix things themselves to save money.  Others would just as soon pay someone to do it and then use their time to do what they do best or enjoy more.  The average American spends nearly three hours a day watching TV or movies.  How much of this time is wasted?  Perhaps, it all depends on the perspective of the person.

 I often declare that the present value of my time is 50 dollars per hour.  If I were richer or poorer, this rate would vary proportionally.  I set my “rate” as a means of considering where I might best spend my effort.  Although, my full time consulting rate is considerably higher, this figure gives me some kind of a baseline to evaluate activities against.  I live to think that I take into consideration the fact that I cannot bill 24/7.  Thus, I might decide that it makes more sense to mow my lawn, wash my car or do an oil change then have someone else do it for me.  This is based in part not just on the cost of the service but also the time I would have to spend arranging the service. I have put in a bid on a contract this Monday and 50 dollars was my baseline for my time multiplied by the number of hours I thought it would take to do the job.  This was a minimum bid and for less, it would not have been worth it.  In fact, if it had not been to help a friend out at work I probably would have passed on the work.  

Some folks would argue it is foolish of me to value time that is not billed the same way as billable time, since this time would not have earned any income anyway.  Nevertheless, it helps me to decide what I really like to do and separate that from what I have to do.  I do not need a heart attack to help me prioritize my values although even a diagnosis with Prostate Cancer does help me focus more.  Many are the days that will find me riding my motorcycle when my neighbor across the street is working on his bike in the garage.  Perhaps he would rather work on his bike, but I would rather ride mine.  I can hear the refrains of the song “Live for today, La La, Live for Today.”  

How do you prioritize your time?  How do you decide what to spend your time on or who to spend it with?  Are you spending it on what really matters or are you “wasting” your time on less beneficial activities and with less beneficial people?  How much is your time worth?  

Approximately 15 men attended the Luck Men’s Discussion Group yesterday.  As I noted in my blog on Wednesday, I was the discussion host and the topic was “Is Life Fair?”  We began with some introductions of a new member who was visiting the area and then Dan the group leader turned the floor over to me.  I introduced the topic by reading the blog I wrote yesterday to the group.  I then asked the group to do a sort of Round Robin where each person takes a turn in answering the topic question. I also asked that each person maybe tell a short story or give some reasons why they thought life was either fair or not.   

I have to note as an aside that the group of men who come to these meetings is a very well educated perhaps upper or at least middle class group of Americans who (at least at this meeting) appeared to all be white older men of Northern European descent.  The fact that this might skew our perceptions on the subject did not go unnoticed by any of the men coming.  Chuck first noted the point that many minorities including Hispanics living in the Southwest and Native Americans might not feel that life was fair and that they would be coming from an entirely different perspective on this issue than we were. With that caveat, it appeared that the group opinion tended towards the “life has been mostly fair to me, but I can see a few instances in my life where it has been unfair and many where it has been unfair to others.  Some comments were:

My friend Jerry read a scripture verse on the subject of fairness, which seemed to indicate that fairness was in the eyes of the beholder. What is fair to one person might not seem fair to another.  This verse was followed up by a rather cute story told by Dick about another individual who used bible verses from Leviticus to indict immoral behavior.  This story is worth noting and I have included since though it has been around the Web for a while it is worth remembering.  This is only a partial version of the original story. It is about a letter to Dr. Laura who is an ardent anti-gay advocate. Dr. Laura Schlessinger is a US radio personality and has said that as an observant Orthodox Jew, homosexuality is an abomination according to Leviticus 18:22 & cannot be condoned under any circumstances.  The respondent wrote as follows:

I noticed that the question and discussion started running out of steam at about the time the donuts and cookies I brought had started to disappear. Upon Jerry’s suggestion I visited the Frederic Bakery, which I might add has the best donuts in Minnesota or Wisconsin and I purchased a dozen donuts and a dozen cookies to bring to the men’s’ discussion group.  After the discussion was ended, I think I received more compliments on the donuts then I did on the discussion topic or at least as many.  I wonder what this says about life.  Maybe my next discussion topic should be “How important are donuts to the meaning of life, love and political discussion?”

Has your life been fair?  How would you answer this question? Do you think life is fair for everyone or is fairness somewhat inadequately proportioned among the earths’ people? What do you do about unfairness and injustice and bullying? Do your stand up for the rights of others? For minorities? If not what holds you back?

For those of you who read my Friday blog, I have a confession to make. It was more or less motivated or should I say precipitated by my imminent appointment with my doctor.  The previous week Dr. Nunes, the urologist I was seeing did a biopsy (should I say 12 since that is how many samples she took) on my prostate. I was coming in on Friday to get the results.  Needless to say, I was preoccupied Friday morning with thoughts or worries of a negative diagnosis. Upon meeting with Dr. Nunes, I immediately asked “were the growths benign or malignant.”  I was told that it was not that simple. She explained that “my growths were indeed cancer” (BAD NEWS!) but that they were a “Gleason 6” (WHAT THE DEVIL DID THIS MEAN?) and there was still plenty of time to make a decision on how to proceed (That’s great, like two days or twenty years?).

Dr. Nunes then explained to me THE options. After hearing them, I asked her if there were not some other options like pills, drugs, herbs or spells that could make the cancer go away,  She was sad to inform me that “modern miracle medicine” was not that “modern” or at least that miraculous yet. The real options (which I shall not bore you with) all had potential side effects, not the least of which to my mind, was impotence.  You will understand that the worries for me about impotence were not so much for my sake, as it was for Karen.  How could I leave her frustrated night after night? J 

Anyway, my choice of action has been to wait and see.  I have been gratified since making this choice five short days ago now to find out the following:

•       My potential life expectancy with surgery is still about 15 more years
•       My life expectancy may depend on how long I wait
•       I have the number one disease for men in the world
•       There is no such thing as a Gleason Stage 6
•       Prostate cancer is no big thing

So, getting back to my Friday blog, I was going to title it “Life’s Not Fair or Is It?  By sheer coincidence, that is the subject of the Men’s discussion group that I am moderating in Luck today. Every other Tuesday as many as 20 men get together in Luck, Wisconsin at the library to discuss issues ranging from Chaos theory to “Is life fair or not?” I referred to this issue in my Friday blog and somehow it seemed apropos to the meeting I was facing on Friday. Let me explain. I am a nice guy (at least nicer now then a few years ago). I pay my taxes. I kiss children. (Shame on W.C. Fields for saying that “Anyone who dislikes kids and dogs cannot be all bad.”) I love dogs!  I give to the poor and other assorted charities.  I slow my car to let old people cross the street.  I support the right or should I say left political candidates. I go to church (every other year) on Christmas and Easter.  I still work and pay taxes to help the younger generation with their social security burden for the older folks.  I am not even collecting Social Security yet.  So how could any God (assuming one exists, which I confess I do not) but if he/she did, how could she/he select me as a candidate for CANCER!  I’m one of the good guys.  I should mention that I am for gender equality, equal rights for minorities including gay marriage and if push comes to shove, I will take the Packers over the Vikings any day. 

Thus, we arrive at perhaps one of the most fundamental existential questions of all time.  Is life fair?  Many religious people, and some not so religious, link this question with their faith and hope in a just God.  I have heard it said many times “How could God let such a thing happen.” You may be familiar with the book “When bad things happen to Good People.”  If there a just God how could he or she let BAD things happen to us GOOD people?  I am marching off at 1PM today to find out what the men in the Luck discussion group think about this question. If you are an assiduous reader of my blog, you will already know what I think on this question. I am not going to contaminate anyone’s thoughts with my ideas at this time.  I will comment tomorrow more on the results from today’s discussion in Luck. For now, I will ask you to post your comments and ideas. 

The question for you today is simple: “Is life fair?”  

How much longer?  How much longer? How much longer will it take?  From the point of view of the person waiting, longer can seem forever. From the point of view of one trying to get ready, longer may seem like a very short time. We say the movie was very long, the speech was very long; the job took a long time to get done. What this means is that we were not really excited about the time we had to wait.  Long is not a very precise word, but it generally denotes a length of time that is greater than we expected or more time than we wanted to spend.  When we are bored, time seems very long indeed.

In men speak, “how much longer” might be translated as “would you please hurry up, I would like to leave now.”  In women speak; the answer might be “I still need to get ready, would you please stop rushing me.”  If men and women have different language and thought patterns, do we differ in our conceptions of time and our methods for handling time?  To some extent, there may be differences due to culture and social influences.  However, I think the concept of long is more related to expectations and where expectations differ by culture then long will have a different meaning regardless of gender. 

I was once told that Asians think in centuries, Europeans think in decades and Americans think in weeks. If you don’t agree about this, think of how obsessed American business is with the quarterly report and end of month figures, not to mention the daily stock market prices. Americans are very pragmatic, but we typically have a very short time horizon. Our conception of long is very short compared to other cultures.  Hence, we think of a long war as anything over four years, where many cultures would think of a long war as lasting decades if not centuries. Think of the European wars than went on for over a hundred years.  Rome was in a perpetual state of warfare for many centuries. 

How long is long for you? How long is long for your spouse or partner?  Do you think gender plays a role in defining long?  Does it vary depending on who is waiting and who is not?  What role does patience play in waiting?  What role does respect play? Do you hesitate to start things because they will “take too long?”  What if you had more tolerance for “long” in your life?  

It’s Time to Go!  A brief play in one act by John Persico Jr.

The Time:     Today

The Setting:  My living room

Characters:  John the blogger

                      Charon:  The boatman who carries souls from this world to the next

John:  Sitting peacefully in his living room reading a book.  Suddenly, a strange looking man appears:

John:  “Who are you?”

Charon:  “It’s time to go!”

John:  “Go where?”

Charon:  “You will find out when you get there.”

John:  “What if I don’t want to go?”

Charon:  “You don’t really have a choice.”

John:  “Can you tell me where I am going?”

Charon: “No”

John:  “Am I going to heaven or hell?”

Charon:  “I don’t make that decision.”

John:  “I am very sorry but I am not ready to go.”

Charon:  “That is what they all say.”

John:  “Look, I have really just started to enjoy life.  I am due to collect Social Security in September and things would really be good then.  Couldn’t we postpone this trip for a few years?” 

Charon:  “No”

John:  “What about the chance to say goodbye to some loved ones and people I have not seen for several years, would a few days make any difference?” 

Charon:  “It is too late for that.”

John:  “I don’t think this is very fair. I have been leading a good life. I give to charity. I have been helping other people and I am finally in that part of my life where I am beginning to hope that I can make a difference in this world.  Couldn’t I get some sort of a delay?” 

Charon:  “No”

John:  “What about trading me for someone else? There are a lot of people who this world would not miss.  Why not take one of them?”

Charon:  “Would you want me to take your wife Karen instead?” 

John:  “No, of course not!”

Charon:  “Then please come along. It’s time to go.”

John: “Look, what if I made a deal with the devil to buy my soul?  Is that a possibility?”

Charon:  “No”

Charon:  “It’s time to go.” 

John:  “I really don’t want to go.  Could I have a few hours to say goodbye to Karen and Jeanine and a few of my close friends.”

Charon:  “No”

John:  “There were many times in my life when you could have taken me and I would not have cared. Now just when I am really starting to enjoy life, you come along and say it’s time to go.  It’s not fair.”

Charon:  “I seem to recall you telling your kids and students that life was not fair.”

John:  “Well, maybe I have changed my mind.”

Charon:  “Why are you making my job harder? It’s time to go.”

John:  “Sorry, but you are a real stubborn SOB! Is there no deal we can make?”

Charon: “No”

John:  “What about one last meal?”

Charon:  “No”

John:  “How about a last minute speech”

Charon:  “No, it’s time to go”

John:  “Still does not seem fair.”

John:  Fades away in the distance with Charon the boatman

When it’s your time to go, will you be ready and willing?  What if your time was today?