2. Sexism
3. Anti-Establishment feeling
John,
Divergent Thoughts on Life, Love and Death
11 Nov 2024 4 Comments
I hope you will enjoy my memories. I also hope they evoke some happy memories of your own.
Sitting on a dock in Galilee, RI watching the sun rise with a cup of hot steaming coffee. The fishing boats are going out and will hopefully return with the lobsters and shrimp that Galilee is famous for. The morning air is a little brisk and the wind blowing in from the Atlantic cooler now that Fall is here. We will soon go for a walk down the beach and see what treasures we can find. Three or four large quahog shells make good decorations where once they made functional ashtrays. The world is far away, and our problems no longer exist.
Putting another log on the fire. The forest surrounds us, and we can hear the sound of night owls off in the pine woods. It is a night with a full moon but still the flames light up the sky. Sparks and fountains resembling fireworks blaze upward in the cool fall air. Twisting, turning, the flames cancel out the moonlight. We must balance being too close and getting singed by the fire with being too far from the heat and getting chilled. Sometimes, we get choked by paths of smoke blown the wrong way by the wind. When the fire is exactly right, we will toast our marshmallows and make smores. The world is far away, and our problems no longer exist.
Laying on a soft bed of sand on a small island in the Caribbean sea. Tufts of clouds drift by as our minds conjure up images of what the clouds portray. The sand is so warm in the middle of the summer day that we need a blanket to keep the heat from burning our skin. The heat feels good as our bodies are cooling off from the breeze that dries the salt water on our skin. If we only stay a brief time, we can avoid needing any sunscreen lotion. The sand cradles our limbs as we alternate between sleeping and meditating. The world is far away, and our problems no longer exist.
Gliding through a window wonderland of snow. Like somewhat out of a fairy tale. The trees are flocked with millions of snowflakes that glisten in the noon day sun. A creek runs along the trail we are on. The banks are covered with pure crystal ice while the middle of the creek sparkles with the water that escaped being frozen. Further down the trail, we will come to the waterfall that will also be half frozen with diamond-like ice crystals and water cascading down to a deep blue pool below the falls. If we stand still for a minute, we will almost always see a few deer off in the distance. Perhaps they are surprised that humans can move so fast in the deep snow. The world is far away, and our problems no longer exist.
The sweat pours off my forehead into my eyes. I dab at the perspiration so I can see where I am running with my trusty bandana. The desert mountain trail requires concentration as it is littered with stones just waiting to trip me up. I glance back and forth, looking forward and down. A fall is inevitable, but I am prepared with knee and arm pads. The large saguaros stand like sentinels honoring my approach. Sometimes I pass between a pair of them on each side of the trail. I say hello and hope they will get enough water this winter. I continue my exercise. Feeling blessed that I can still run these trails at 78 years of age and amazed at the beauty of the desert landscape. Chollas, palo verde trees, ocotillo, prickly pears, diamond chollas, mesquite trees and many other flora that I do not know the names of stand like an army ready at attention. In the spring, they will bloom with white, orange, red, yellow, purple, and blue blossoms. Adding vivid colors to an almost entirely brown and green landscape. The world is far away, and my problems no longer exist.
Well, that is all for now folks. I have several other memories I would like to share, but I will save them for Memories – Part 2. Please feel free to add any of your memories in my comments section. I would love to hear from you.
08 Nov 2024 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: bible, christianity, divorce, friendship, happiness, life, love, marriage, partnership, relationship, relationships, risk
I participate in a high school mentoring program which matches up young students with older experienced men and women. This was my second year in the program. My mentee last year graduated and has become an alumnus of the program. This year I was matched up with another student. My new mentee was a young high school junior. She wrote to me one day that she was in a relationship with someone and that it had become serious. She wanted my advice. Never one to shirk giving advice, I seem to always fail to hew to the dictum that “Wise people won’t need it, and fools won’t heed it.” I sent her some comments based on my two marriages and nearly 60 years of being in a committed relationship. The sixty years includes both my marriages.
Some days later, I found some notes from my retreat this summer. These notes also addressed the subject of relationships or shall I say a “theory” of relationships. I want to talk about my theory in this blog. For many of you it will probably be “common knowledge.” Nevertheless, I am hoping my insights might be useful to anyone out there either beginning or struggling with a relationship. A relationship might be a friendship, a family member, a group you belong to or a loved one. I think my theory will have some value to any such relationship.
According to Google AI, a good theory consists of the following:
A theory consists of concepts, constructs, precepts, variables, relationships between variables and assumptions. I am going to posit five assumptions about relationships and then try to explain each adding in some of the above parts of a theory. I will explain why I think each of my assumptions is critical to a good relationship. I am not going to try to claim that my theory is a “good” theory by any scientific data. Rather, I would justify it based on my ups and downs with relationships over sixty or more years of experience. But as Dr. W. E. Deming often said, “Experience without theory teaches nothing.” Thus, herein is my “Theory of Relationships.” I hope some of these ideas will help you or others along the pathway of love and life.
My five key assumptions about relationships are as follows:
Almost any effort in life will entail some element of risk. As the saying goes, “The turtle only makes progress by sticking its neck out.” Risk is a key concept that runs through life. It can be thought of as the probability that something will happen either good or bad. For instance, when you bet at a Casino or perhaps take a Caribbean cruise. You hope to win the bet, and you hope your cruise will be safe and fun.
In life, we try to minimize risk by back-up plans, precautions and strategies to offset risk. Variables can be created in some cases to give us more definitive measures of how risky a specific endeavor is. In gambling we call these odds. In love, we are usually to foolish to accept any odds on our relationship going south. However, some people do set up prenuptial contracts which are a method to hedge your bet on your relationship. Most people in love though are blind to the possibility that their relationship will end. Odds are though that it will end unhappily.
Many people accept it as a fact that forty to fifty percent of all first marriages end in divorce, but those who wed multiple times face a far higher divorce rate. The average length of a first marriage in the United States is around eight years. The average length of a second marriage is about seven years. Sixty to seventy percent of second marriages end in divorce.
Being aware of risk does not mean giving up on life. It simply means we must be realistic about the possibilities that risk entails for relationships and all other endeavors (This includes friendships). There are many ways to minimize risk in a relationship. Here are just a few examples:
10 Ways to Save Your Marriage From Divorce, Straight From Relationship Experts
Perhaps one of the most overlooked facts impacting a relationship is the need for change. Right, “your other needs to change but you do not.” You are perfectly okay. Change is an interesting concept. One of the things most feared in life is change. Ironically, we could not survive without change. Unfortunately, not all changes turn out well. Herein lies another risk factor. Will your change be for the better or worse? Hard to put odds on change, but most relationships will not survive unless the partners are willing to change.
I don’t mean change in just a physical sense but change in an emotional and cognitive sense. Are you willing to accept major changes in your ideas about life and relationships? Are you willing to accept major changes in how you feel about certain activities and people? Without change, we know that life grows stale and boring. Relationships are no different. A relationship without change will become boring. Doing the same old things day after day. Even worse is when you refuse to think about some of the ideas you have that relate to your significant other. For instance, If he or she likes to travel and you do not, are you willing to go along or have your partner go with a friend? What accommodation are you willing to make if you are not willing to change your own behavior? Love requires change.
“We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses.” — Carl Jung
We hear a great deal about commitment when it comes to relationships. Making a commitment involves dedicating yourself to something, like a person or a cause. A commitment obligates you to do something. In a relationship, it might involve a commitment to fidelity or to some fiduciary obligations. We promise to “Love, honor and obey” in some marriage vows. We think that making a commitment is enough to keep our relationship in safe waters. Some people think that a commitment can be embodied in a “Marriage Contract.” Such a document spells out mutual responsibilities and agreements.
At our last Marriage Encounter meeting, I was introduced to the distinction between a “Marriage Contract” and a “Marriage Covenant.”
Covenant Contract
Unconditional 50/50 agreement
A Covenant is forever A Contract can be terminated
A Covenant is limitless A Contract has limits
We tend to think of Covenants when it comes to Bible history. Covenants were made between God and his chosen people. The idea of a contract is a modern legal term. I think it erodes the very essence of spirituality that a marriage or committed relationship should embody. We need to adhere to the idea of a Covenant when it comes to a relationship. Anything less leads inevitably to less than a committed relationship. We can simply terminate it when the going gets rough.
Another interesting concept, Sacrifice. What does sacrifice mean? Are there any variables that can measure our sacrifices? Jesus said that the greatest sacrifice anyone can make is to give up their lives for another. I think the greatest sacrifice is to love someone who is unlovable. To love someone who is despicable like a pedophile or a serial killer or someone who bullies and threatens others. I do not know about such sacrifices, and I am not sure if I could make them. I admire the partner or mother or father who can stick by their spouses or siblings when all hell breaks loose. Can you imagine being called up by the police and told that your son just shot 20 people at school. Could you stand by them? What sacrifice it must entail not to stop loving someone who has done such cruel acts! Fortunately, most relationships will never demand such sacrifices.
The sacrifices we make in relationships can range from trivial (like which way to put toilet paper on the roll) to the significant. More significant sacrifices might entail deciding who will stay home with the children or who will give up where they want to live for the other person’s choice. You may not face many significant sacrifices in your relationships, but you will most assuredly face many trivial sacrifices. These should not be discounted or minimized though. As the quote goes, “For want of a nail the shoe was lost, For want of a shoe the horse was lost, For want of a horse the rider was lost, For want of a rider the battle was lost.” Trivial things add up like the straw that broke the camels back. The trivial can go from a mole hill to a mountain in less time than many of us realize. When the trivial become the mountain, your relationship will be in jeopardy. The trivial sacrifices in a relationship are anything but trivial but they are certainly inevitable.
This is the toughest requirement of all. Socrates said that “The unexamined life is not worth living.” What if you have never examined your life? How many people do you know who have done a rigorous examination of their life? Jesus said, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” But what if you do not love yourself. In truth, I doubt many people do. Many people have been so beaten up by parents, teachers, bullies and even loved ones that they actually hate themselves. Few of these people want to know themselves because it means facing hidden demons that they would just like to leave buried. Gandhi said, “Be the change that you want to see in others.” This axiom encourages a certain amount of self-understanding as well as understanding of others. All too often we have no time to understand either. The perp that is trying to rob you at gun point will not have time for you to understand him. Furthermore, you may care very little about his troubled up bringing.
My uber pessimism on a premise that I insist is necessary for a good relationship seems to doom any relationship to the graveyard. If we can never know ourselves or others, how then can we have a positive happy relationship. The secret is that we do not have to be perfect, nor do we need perfect knowledge of ourselves or others. We can never and will never be perfectly transparent to ourselves or others anyway. The JOHARI Window has a quadrant of “Unknown to Others and Unknown to Self.” I have found the JOHARI window to be quite a useful concept on the path to discovering more about myself and thinking about my relationship with others.
“The Johari window model is used to enhance the individual’s perception on others. This model is based on two ideas- trust can be acquired by revealing information about you to others and learning yourselves from their feedback. Each person is represented by the Johari model through four quadrants or windowpane. Each four windowpanes signifies personal information, feelings, motivation and whether that information is known or unknown to oneself or others in four viewpoints.” — The Johari Window Model
The risk will always be there, but we can work on being more self-aware and more honest to others. That is the best we can do in life. That is why relationships are risky. You will never be able to see all the shoals and reefs that your life might flounder on. Life is a process of never-ending discovery. Death will eventually bring closure to your adventures and explorations. Until then, just getting in bed is risky so why not try to live life to the fullest. Get out of bed and go MAKE a good relationship.
07 Nov 2024 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: democracy, donald trump, news, Politics, trump
The Mourning After – by Mr. Fish
In the end, the election was about despair. Despair over futures that evaporated with deindustrialization. Despair over the loss of 30 million jobs in mass layoffs. Despair over austerity programs and the funneling of wealth upwards into the hands of rapacious oligarchs. Despair over a liberal class that refuses to acknowledge the suffering it orchestrated under neoliberalism or embrace New Deal type programs that will ameliorate this suffering. Despair over the futile, endless wars, as well as the genocide in Gaza, where generals and politicians are never held accountable. Despair over a democratic system that has been seized by corporate and oligarchic power.
This despair has been played out on the bodies of the disenfranchised through opioid and alcoholism addictions, gambling, mass shootings, suicides — especially among middle-aged white males — morbid obesity and the investment of our emotional and intellectual life in tawdry spectacles and the allure of magical thinking, from the absurd promises of the Christian right to the Oprah-like belief that reality is never an impediment to our desires. These are the pathologies of a deeply diseased culture, what Friedrich Nietzsche calls an aggressive despiritualized nihilism.
Donald Trump is a symptom of our diseased society. He is not its cause. He is what is vomited up out of decay. He expresses a childish yearning to be an omnipotent god. This yearning resonates with Americans who feel they have been treated like human refuse. But the impossibility of being a god, as Ernest Becker writes, leads to its dark alternative — destroying like a god. This self-immolation is what comes next.
Kamala Harris and the Democratic Party, along with the establishment wing of the Republican Party, which allied itself with Harris, live in their own non-reality-based belief system. Harris, who was anointed by party elites and never received a single primary vote, proudly trumpeted her endorsement by Dick Cheney, a politician who left office with a 13 percent approval rating. The smug, self-righteous “moral” crusade against Trump stokes the national reality television show that has replaced journalism and politics. It reduces a social, economic and political crisis to the personality of Trump. It refuses to confront and name the corporate forces responsible for our failed democracy. It allows Democratic politicians to blithely ignore their base – 77 percent of Democrats and 62 percent of independents support an arms embargo against Israel. The open collusion with corporate oppression and refusal to heed the desires and needs of the electorate neuters the press and Trump critics. These corporate puppets stand for nothing, other than their own advancement. The lies they tell to working men and women, especially with programs such as the North American Free Trade Agreement (NAFTA), do far more damage than any of the lies uttered by Trump.
Oswald Spengler in “The Decline of the West” predicted that, as Western democracies calcified and died, a class of “monied thugs,” people such as Trump, would replace the traditional political elites. Democracy would become a sham. Hatred would be fostered and fed to the masses to encourage them to tear themselves apart.
The American dream has become an American nightmare.
The social bonds, including jobs that gave working Americans a sense of purpose and stability, that gave them meaning and hope, have been sundered. The stagnation of tens of millions of lives, the realization that it will not be better for their children, the predatory nature of our institutions, including education, health care and prisons, have engendered, along with despair, feelings of powerlessness and humiliation. It has bred loneliness, frustration, anger and a sense of worthlessness.
“When life is not worth living, everything becomes a pretext for ridding ourselves of it … ,” Émile Durkheim writes. “There is a collective mood, as there is an individual mood, that inclines nations to sadness. … For individuals are too closely involved in the life of society for it to be sick without their being affected. Its suffering inevitably becomes theirs.”
Decayed societies, where a population is stripped of political, social and economic power, instinctively reach out for cult leaders. I watched this during the breakup of the former Yugoslavia. The cult leader promises a return to a mythical golden age and vows, as Trump does, to crush the forces embodied in demonized groups and individuals that are blamed for their misery. The more outrageous cult leaders become, the more cult leaders flout law and social conventions, the more they gain in popularity. Cult leaders are immune to the norms of established society. This is their appeal. Cult leaders seek total power. Those who follow them grant them this power in the desperate hope that the cult leaders will save them.
All cults are personality cults. Cult leaders are narcissists. They demand obsequious fawning and total obedience. They prize loyalty above competence. They wield absolute control. They do not tolerate criticism. They are deeply insecure, a trait they attempt to cover up with bombastic grandiosity. They are amoral and emotionally and physically abusive. They see those around them as objects to be manipulated for their own empowerment, enjoyment and often sadistic entertainment. All those outside the cult are branded as forces of evil, prompting an epic battle whose natural expression is violence.
We will not convince those who have surrendered their agency to a cult leader and embraced magical thinking through rational argument. We will not coerce them into submission. We will not find salvation for them or ourselves by supporting the Democratic Party. Whole segments of American society are now bent on self-immolation. They despise this world and what it has done to them. Their personal and political behavior is willfully suicidal. They seek to destroy, even if destruction leads to violence and death. They are no longer sustained by the comforting illusion of human progress, losing the only antidote to nihilism.
Pope John Paul II in 1981 issued an encyclical titled “Laborem exercens,” or “Through Work.” He attacked the idea, fundamental to capitalism, that work was merely an exchange of money for labor. Work, he wrote, should not be reduced to the commodification of human beings through wages. Workers were not impersonal instruments to be manipulated like inanimate objects to increase profit. Work was essential to human dignity and self-fulfillment. It gave us a sense of empowerment and identity. It allowed us to build a relationship with society in which we could feel we contributed to social harmony and social cohesion, a relationship in which we had purpose.
The pope castigated unemployment, underemployment, inadequate wages, automation and a lack of job security as violations of human dignity. These conditions, he wrote, were forces that negated self-esteem, personal satisfaction, responsibility and creativity. The exaltation of the machine, he warned, reduced human beings to the status of slaves. He called for full employment, a minimum wage large enough to support a family, the right of a parent to stay home with children, and jobs and a living wage for the disabled. He advocated, in order to sustain strong families, universal health insurance, pensions, accident insurance and work schedules that permitted free time and vacations. He wrote that all workers should have the right to form unions with the ability to strike.
We must invest our energy into organizing mass movements to overthrow the corporate state through sustained acts of mass civil disobedience. This includes the most powerful weapon we possess – the strike. By turning our ire on the corporate state, we name the true sources of power and abuse. We expose the absurdity of blaming our demise on demonized groups such as undocumented workers, Muslims or Blacks. We give people an alternative to a corporate-indentured Democratic Party that cannot be rehabilitated. We make possible the restoration of an open society, one that serves the common good rather than corporate profit. We must demand nothing less than full employment, guaranteed minimum incomes, universal health insurance, free education at all levels, robust protection of the natural world and an end to militarism and imperialism. We must create the possibility for a life of dignity, purpose and self-esteem. If we do not, it will ensure a Christianized fascism and ultimately, with the accelerating ecocide, our obliteration.
03 Nov 2024 4 Comments
in Uncategorized Tags: dreams, loneliness, lyrics, memories, music, old man river, poetry, respect, satisfaction, songs, writing
Sometimes my mind simmers with proverbs or aphorisms. “Eat, drink and be merry for tomorrow you may die.” “The test of courage comes when we are in the minority; while the test of tolerance comes when we are in the majority.” Hardly a day goes by when one or more of these pithy sayings does not assume authority over my daily life.
On other days, I am more guided by messages embedded in some song. For instance, the idea of “Tradition” is a theme in the musical “Fiddler on the Roof.”
Who, day and night, must scramble for a living,
Feed a wife and children, say his daily prayers?
And who has the right, as master of the house,
To have the final word at home?
The Papa, the Papa! Tradition.
The Papa, the Papa! Tradition.
My blog this week is simply a mélange or medley of some of the songs that give me inspiration. Messages that without being invited often invade my life. There is no particular order or priority to the songs in this blog. I don’t know why or how these musical pieces pop up; but suddenly, some extraneous words, activities or events trigger them. Before I know it, I am humming a refrain in my mind. (If you care to hear the songs noted below, just click on the title which is hyperlinked.
All I’m askin’ is for a little respect when you come home
(Just a little bit) Baby
(Just a little bit) When you get home
(Just a little bit) Yeah
(Just a little bit)
Isn’t this something we all want? Just a little respect! Sometimes it seems so hard to find these days. The idea of a “Righteous Person” or a Mensch does not seem to resonate with modern society.
The time is now on everything
Took my heart away from money, I ain’t interested in fame
And I pray that never change
Ambition is priceless, it’s something that’s in your veins
What is ambition? When is it good and when does it corrupt our lives? The Greeks had the concept of the “Golden Mean” and it certainly should guide our ambition or we become totally corrupted.
We’ve surely got trouble (we’ve surely got trouble)
Right here in River City (right here)
Remember the Maine, Plymouth Rock and the Golden Rule
(Our children’s children gonna have trouble, trouble, trouble, trouble)
A cute song but it reminds me constantly of the need to be on the lookout for politicians that use hyperbole to sow fear in the polis so that they can reap their rewards.
Well, I’ll keep on dreamin’
Keep right on dreamin’
Dreamin’ ’til my dreamin’ comes true
My entire life often seems like one big dream. Dreaming is more of a process for me than an end state. I like to think that I am a Realist but more often I am an idealist. I dream of a world defined by the words of Martin Luther King.
“I have a dream that one day down in Alabama with its vicious racists, with its governor having his lips dripping with the words of interposition and nullification, one day right down in Alabama little Black boys and Black girls will be able to join hands with little White boys and White girls as sisters and brothers. I have a dream today.”
The snow may never slush upon the hillside
By nine p.m. the moonlight must appear
In short, there’s simply not a more congenial spot
For happily ever after in than here in Camelot
Is there a place on this earth where peace and justice reign? Where I can live happily ever after. Where there is no fear or evil. I am still looking for this place. It exists in my mind. If only I could find its physical manifestation.
Lonely Teardrops: Jackie Wilson
My Heart Is cryin’, cryin’
Lonely Teardrops
My pillows never dry of
Lonely Teardrops
Who among you has not felt the pain of loneliness? James Bond said that “Boredom” was the worst curse of all. I disagree. Loneliness is the worst curse of all. No physical pain is as great as the heart ache of loneliness. No man or woman wants to do battle with loneliness. Sadly, it must come to all of us someday.
I can’t get no satisfaction
I can’t get no satisfaction
‘Cause I try and I try and I try and I try
I can’t get no, I can’t get no satisfaction
Sounds like a whine! But we all have those days when nothing seems to go right. We call our insurance companies, or we call our bank, or we call our hospital and we “Can’t get no satisfaction.” I often wonder if anyone really cares about our satisfaction.
Ah gits weary
An’ sick of tryin’;
Ah’m tired of livin’
An’ skeered of dyin’,
But Ol’ Man River,
He jes’ keeps rollin’ along!
I’m sitting on the bank of the Mississippi watching the river flow or I’m watching the tide roll in on the “Dock of the Bay.” I am sick of tryin and I am sick of livin. Suddenly, every problem I have just melts away. My problems are mostly in my mind. The river doesn’t care. The ocean doesn’t care. The river rolls. The tide comes in. Life goes on.
Well, that’s all folks! I have dozens, maybe hundreds of other refrains. Many of them will remain hidden until suddenly the right chord is struck, and I will be humming them in my mind.
So long, farewell
Auf Wiederseh’n, goodbye
I leave, and heave
A sigh and say goodbye
Goodbye
30 Oct 2024 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: bigots, christian nationalists, christianity, donald trump, Politics, racists, religion, republicans, sexists, trump, trump mobile, white supremacists, xenophobia
The Trump mobile is the limousine that Trump drives. I will describe it in this blog. If you board his vehicle, he will take you on a ride to autocracy and xenophobia. To a land bereft of Democracy or anything pertaining to the values and virtues of the Founding Fathers. Lets look at the construction of this vehicle from the ground up.
There are four tires that the Trump mobile rolls on. One tire is Christian Nationalism. This is the belief that the Christian religion should become the religion of the USA. It is the belief that Christianity is superior to all other religions and that the Christian God is the only true God. Christianity needs to infiltrate our government and our schools. Christian Nationalists want to do away with the separation of church and state and put the 10 Commandments and Bibles in every institute of education in America. America will become a Theocracy like Iran and Israel.
A second tire that the Trump mobile rides on is White Supremacy. This tire is constructed of layers of belief that White people need to remain the supreme governing group in the USA. It supports the idea that White people are superior in morals, intellect and aspirations to all other ethnic groups. By virtue of being White, you are entitled to rule over inferior races which includes everyone on earth who is non-White.
The third tire constructed for the Trump mobile is Sexism. This tire promotes the inferiority of women to men. Women were brought into being by a creator not to lead men but to follow men. A women’s main role is to bear children that will continue the dynasties started by men. Women should always remain subservient to men from the bedroom to the kitchen.
The fourth tire for the Trump mobile is Racism and Xenophobia. This tire is built up from layers of fear and loathing for other races and cultures. This tire rolls on the belief that White people must prevent race mixing. Allowing relationships with other races will dilute the pure heritage of the White genotype. Anyone different such as Gays, minorities, disabled people or indigenous people must be eliminated from the White gene pool.
Moving on to the major power for the Trump mobile we come to the engine and the fuel supply. The engine is composed of 8 cylinders of greed, avarice, acquisitiveness, covetousness, graspingness, cupidity, materialism, and possessiveness. The fuel that feeds the engine delivers power from the promise of Tax Breaks and Trickle-Down Economics. A fuel that will help the rich and many others find ways to buy more stuff.
Then we come to the transmission for the Trump mobile. No limousine can move until the power is transferred to the wheels from the engine. In the case of the Trump mobile, the two main cogs in the transmission are fear and hate. Fear and hate convey the power to the wheels. Fear of others who may try to take away the values promoted by Trump and his followers. Hate for those who are different and who may try to block the desires of Trump and his supporters.
The vehicle is of course driven by the charismatic Donald Trump who is the only one on the whole planet capable of steering the limousine in the RIGHT direction. Trump was sent by the Christian Nationalist God to drive the Trump mobile to a paradise on earth ruled by White Christian people. People who believe in the superiority of Whiteness and a White God with blond hair and blue eyes who will smite the enemies of Trump and his supporters.
The fronts seats of the Trump mobile are filled with sycophants who bless Trump and regard him as a savior. Leaders of the Republican party, rich billionaires, media propagandists and young sexy women all get to ride in the front seats. The back seats are full of Trump supporters who hope someday to ride in the front seats. These are men and women who feel cheated by their government and society of their rightful place in life. They believe that someday Trump will anoint them as faithful followers and allow them to join Trump in his paradise on earth. They believe that the Trump mobile will take them there.
All aboard please. The Trump mobile is leaving soon.
27 Oct 2024 Leave a comment
in Uncategorized Tags: hate, Jesus, love, passion, sex
I had this conversation with Jesus nine years ago now. I think it is worth reposting as so many people have a need for love in their lives but so few people know what love really entails. John
17 Oct 2024 13 Comments
in Uncategorized Tags: atheist, bible, christ, christianity, faith, God, heaven, hell, Jesus, love, religion, Spirituality
This past year marks my 41st Jesuit Silent Retreat. I may be the only Atheist at the retreat. Each year brings new insights and thoughts. I wonder if I have grown any during my retreats. I can’t say that I feel any closer to God, yours or theirs. I wonder if there is a God but I doubt it. I wonder if there are multiple Gods. A God for each religion. Is the Muslim God and the Catholic God and the Jewish God the same entity? Were the Romans, Greeks, Hindus and many others more on the mark with different Gods for different functions?
This year reading as I usually do many of the assigned Gospel readings and many other Gospel passages I was struck with how many of the old prophets emphasized the need to believe in God’s goodness. Only God can save us and we must have faith in God’s goodness. God has a plan for all of us if we will only listen to him or perhaps her. God knows what we need but we ignore his/her messages. Pray to God. Love God, for God loves us. He loves us so much that he sent his only “begotten” son (Not sure what a begotten son is) to save us.
Exodus 33:18-19 (NKJV)
“And he said, ‘Please, show me Your glory.’ Then He said, ‘I will make all My goodness pass before you, and I will proclaim the name of the Lord before you. I will be gracious to whom I will be gracious, and I will have compassion on whom I will have compassion.’”
Frankly, I still don’t get it. Many people have taken a shot at saving my soul, but I still don’t see any value in God. During the past five years, he/she has allowed Global Warming to destroy much of the climate that I once loved. He sent a scourge called Covid 19 to help ruin the last few years of my life. And to top it off, he allowed a low life called Trump to run for President again. I guess I am lost to the damnations of hell fire, but I still don’t see a God that is going to save me. If so, he/she is about 78 years past my patience.
C. S. Lewis was the great “converter.” The conversion of an Atheist to a Theist is an aphrodisiac for the devoted religious. I suppose it justifies their belief in a future fiction that requires a complete abandonment of reason and logic. A place called Heaven where we can all live happily ever after. Just as long as we are willing to listen to daily sermons about how good God is for us.
“[God] will not be used as a convenience. Men or nations who think they can revive the Faith in order to make a good society might just as well think they can use the stairs of heaven as a shortcut to the nearest chemist’s shop.” — C.S. Lewis
But “Only God Can Save You” has a ring of truth to it. No one on earth can save you from death. No one can be trusted to be by your side forever regardless of the consequences. Friends and lovers come and go like shadows in the night. One day someone loves you, the next day they hate you. One day someone is your friend, the next day they unfriend you on Facebook. Tragedy of tragedies. Loneliness is a Satan stalking all of us all of our lives. I would wager more people have committed suicide out of loneliness than any other reason on earth.
Psalm 107:8-9 (NKJV)
“Oh, that men would give thanks to the Lord for His goodness, and for His wonderful works to the children of men! For He satisfies the longing soul and fills the hungry soul with goodness.”
Only the concept or idea of an All Knowing, All Seeing, All Powerful and All Compassionate God can guarantee us that we will never be alone. Never be forgotten. Never be forsook. One popular song goes:
Walk on, walk on
With hope in your heart
And you’ll never walk alone
You’ll never walk alone
This song was first written by Oscar Hammerstein II and composed by Richard Rodgers for their musical Carousel, which was released in the USA in 1945. It has since become one of the most popular funeral songs (Next to Amazing Grace) of all time. Many people interpret it to have faith. Faith in friends. Faith in lovers. Faith in a God who will always be with you in time of trials and tribulations. It is a song to give hope to people in time of grief and suffering.
But where does one find such a God? The Bible shows us at best an arbitrary God. Sometimes belligerent. Sometimes vindictive. Sometimes vengeful. Sometime cruel. A God that many of us see in the world wreaking havoc on humanity for any number of transgressions. From Sodom and Gomorrah to massive floods to sending his “Chosen people” into slavery. A God who threw Adam and Ever out of the Garden of Paradise because they dared eat an apple. A God who destroyed cities because they did not live up to his/her expectations. A God who sent a flood to wipe out humanity. This is a compassionate loving God?
Psalm 31:19 (NIV-84)
“How great is your goodness, which you have stored up for those who fear you, which you bestow in the sight of men on those who take refuge in you.”
Or is it a God who feeds his people. A God who watches out for his Chosen ones. A God who rewards those who obey him/her. A God who destroys the enemies of those who worship him. A God who is loving, kind and compassionate. I wonder what God really is. Here are some questions that still nag at my Atheist beliefs.
The Atheist by Martin Braun
Science defines my virtue.
Factual and fictional books are my domain.
Don’t speak to me of pixies, fairies, and unicorns,
Or of your monopoly on morality, love, faith, and shame.
I am what I am
And of what I do I claim my own.
I fight for my survival
Of which need not be told, judged or shown.
There is no all knowing
Or an immortal god of my fate he will judge.
For when my heart ceases to beat
It will return from whence it came, a kind of primordial sludge.
13 Oct 2024 2 Comments
in Uncategorized Tags: calumnies, deceit, elections, fraud, goebbels, hitler, liars, libel, lies, misinformation, Politics, propaganda, slander, voting
You have just read the title of this blog, and you thought, great idea but impossible. There is no way that we can stop the lies and misinformation that infect our political system. I submit that you are wrong. I submit that nothing is impossible if “We the People” decide that we have had enough. I am sure that this year in the USA, we have all had more than enough. I don’t care if you are a Democrat, Republican, Independent, Green, Libertarian, Constitutionalist or Socialist, I know that you are probably as sick and tired of the continuous lies that fuel our election process as I am.
“But wait” you say, “In twenty-five days, it will all be over.” I sincerely wish you were right, but you are not. No sooner than this election is over then you will get requests from someone running for dog catcher in Fairbanks, Alaska asking you for money.
Dear Sir,
Thank you so much for your generous campaign contribution for my election. It was thanks to your help and thousands of other donors that I was elected. But now is not the time to let up. Our sleazy lying opponents have already collected a million dollars to fund their next campaign. We must stop them now before it is too late. Please pledge at least $100 dollars (or whatever you can afford) before midnight to help us reach our goal of 10 million dollars to re-elect me as dog catcher of Fairbanks. My opponent says that she will ban stray dogs from wandering around our streets. I promise to do better than that. I will take all the homeless dogs off the street and provide adequate food and housing for them. My campaign motto is “Make American Dogs .” That stands for MAD because I am mad that we have so many homeless dogs.
PS: You can buy a MAD hat at my office for the low price of only $39.99. All proceeds will go to building more dog shelters
IF you think the above letter is funny, it is only so because you know it is true. No sooner than this election is over, the cycle of lies, slander and calumnies will begin again. How can we stop it? Believe it or not we can stop it. But before describing what I think we can do, it is important to define some terms. What is a Calumny? What is a lie? What is a slander? I will use the Oxford Online Dictionary to provide a common definition of each and a few examples.
A Calumny is the making of false and defamatory statements about someone in order to damage their reputation. — https://languages.oup.com/google-dictionary-en
As an example, I have a flyer before me that claims one presidential candidate will send police door to door to seize firearms. This is a lie because it is not true, but it is also a calumny because it is designed to damage the candidates reputation.
A Slander is the action or crime of making a false spoken statement damaging to a person’s reputation.
Here is one example from another political flyer. Candidate X has invited criminals, drug dealers and terrorists into our neighborhoods. Another lie because no candidate on either side has ever done such an egregious offense.
If you study these two words, calumny and slander, they are very confusing. One source describes the differences as follows:
“While both “slander” and “calumny” refer to making false statements to damage someone’s reputation, “calumny” is considered a more formal and serious term, often implying a malicious intent to spread false accusations, while “slander” simply refers to making a false spoken statement that harms someone’s reputation; in legal terms, “slander” is the specific act of making a defamatory oral statement, whereas “calumny” is a broader concept encompassing the act of making a malicious false accusation.” — Generative AI
A Lie is an untrue statement with intent to deceive. She told a lie when she said she didn’t break the vase. He lied to create a false or misleading impression.
Lying is common to both calumnies and slanders but whereas slanders and calumnies can be illegal and subject to lawsuits, lies are a more generic family of comments that seem to escape legal action. Part of the reason deals with intention. A lie may be intentional, but it may not be meant to harm but only to deceive. (Some might quibble about my distinction here). For instance, I lie to my date because I want to impress her or him but not because I want to harm him or her. I lie on my resume to get the job because I think the credentials required are ridiculous and I know I can do a great job despite lacking the formal requirements.
Today, we see lies about everything. Sadly, people are willing to believe these lies. The famous Nazi propagandist Joseph Goebbels and German Leader Adolph Hitler have both been described as partisans of what has been called “The Big Lie.”
“The German expression was first used by Adolf Hitler in his book Mein Kampf (1925) to describe how people could be induced to believe so colossal a lie because they would not believe that someone ‘could have the impudence to distort the truth so infamously’. The phrase “Big Lie” was used in a report prepared around 1943 by Walter C. Langer for the United States Office of Strategic Services in describing Hitler’s psychological profile. The report was later published in book form as ‘The Mind of Adolf Hitler in 1972.’ Langer stated the following in respect to Hitler’s personality.” — Wikipedia
“His primary rules were; never allow the public to cool off; never admit a fault or wrong; never concede that there may be some good in your enemy; never leave room for alternatives; never accept blame; concentrate on one enemy at a time and blame him for everything that goes wrong; people will believe a big lie sooner than a little one; and if you repeat it frequently enough people will sooner or later believe it.” — “Mind of Adolf Hitler, 1972”
When I was a young student going to a Catholic School, I learned that there were two types of lies. One was called “White Lies” and the other were simply “Black Lies.” White lies were lies told for good reasons. White Lies might be defended by those who believe that the ends justify the means. Thus, politicians who believe they can save the USA from defeat by its enemies might tell “White Lies” to get elected so they can save the country. Black Lies are generally regarded as lies told for selfish reasons or reasons to benefit someone else. Using AI again, we find the following distinctions:
White Lies are told to please someone or to benefit the relationship and are generally considered acceptable. For example, telling a friend that their new haircut looks great. White lies are often motivated by empathy and compassion.
Black Lies are told to gain personal benefits or to avoid a deserved penalty. Black lies are generally considered universally wrong. For example, a used car dealer lying about the condition of a car. Black lies are often motivated by selfishness. — Generative AI
The nuances depicted in many of the definitions given above make ascertaining any criminal liability for lying very difficult. One person’s “good intentions” might be another person’s “road to hell.” Lawyers and pedants would have a field day debating these distinctions. For those of us who know a horse from a cow, the distinctions are quite clear. Namely, we are sick and tired of being lied to and having to listen to calumnies and slanders from either side attacking and trying to destroy the reputation, character and morals of people whom we personally respect.
I do not care which side you are on, left, right, up or down, enough is enough. To demolish the character of people with lies and more lies simply to win an election is wrong.
It is wrong.
It is sick behavior, and it is destroying our country. You can proclaim all you want that the country is too divided, but it can never come together when one side demonizes the other. Lying Fascist Greedy Right-Wing Republicans versus Lying Commie Radical Left-Wing Democrats. What if someone called your mother or wife one of these terms? How would you feel? What would you do? I know what I would do, and it would probably land me in jail.
What is my solution?
Let us start a national movement that puts power back in the hands of voters. You can argue all day long about false ballots, hanging chads, illegal voters, fake ballots and you will get nowhere. As long as we have a voting process there will be human errors and even some iniquities in the process. But what if we refuse to vote? There are no laws against NOT VOTING in the USA. What if we say, “I have had enough. I am not voting in any election until we have a fix against political slander, lies and calumnies.”
There is no law that could put us in jail for not voting. Imagine what it would do to the political process. It would be like throwing a giant monkey wrench in the system. The elections systems all over America would come to a grinding halt. All we have to do is “NOT VOTE.” We agree to stop voting for anyone until some efforts and sanctions are enacted for lying, slander and calumnies in the political process. Until then, I say we sign petitions not to vote. Buy yard signs saying “I am not voting anymore.” Start a National I Am Not Voting Party consisting of people like us who are tired of a system built on money, greed and lies.
Please feel free to share this blog with anyone else who is sick and tired of lies and more lies.
04 Oct 2024 3 Comments
in Uncategorized Tags: 2024 Election, donald trump, harris, kamala-harris, MAGA, news, Politics, trump, Vance, Walz

You have read all the books. You have heard all the theories. Why do people support Trump? But every time you listen to Trump, you shake your head wondering “why, why, why?” Why would anyone support such a low life despicable character or should I say lack of character. The experts, his “old” friends, his relatives and the left-wing keep coming up with more theories to explain the Trump phenomenon. How could anyone support a man with no ethics? An adulterer, liar and slanderer who is also greedy, avaricious and felonious. A man who has already served one term in the highest office in the world with disastrous results and if his luck holds out may just serve another term. How, how, how you ask is this possible? How could 74 million people vote for such a person?
The books and pundits have proposed so many theories for the above questions during the last four years that it would make your head spin. Going to Google, I found 111 books about Trump. Most of these books are not favorable but a few are. (See bibliography of Donald Trump).
There are other theories that have not been enshrined in a book yet. A recent one that I heard had to do with virility. Some scientists looked at the US States with the highest Viagra usage and found that the degree of Viagra sold correlated positively with the votes for Trump in that State. The higher the usage of Viagra, the more men voted for Trump. Ergo, the theory is that men who can’t get an erection are more likely to vote for Trump. Needless to say, these “scientists” need to have their heads examined IMHO. So why do people support Trump? The other question is “why can’t any facts, data, evidence or Trump pronouncements change their minds?” Lets start with the first question.
Why Do People Support Trump?
The answer lies in a John Denver song called, “Country Roads, Take Me Home”
Almost Heaven, West Virginia
Blue Ridge Mountains, Shenandoah River
Life is old there, older than the trees
Younger than the mountains, growin’ like a breeze
Country roads, take me home
To the place I belong
West Virginia, mountain mama
Take me home, country roads
All my memories gather ’round her
Miner’s lady, stranger to blue water
Dark and dusty, painted on the sky
Misty taste of moonshine, teardrop in my eye

Trump supporters want to go back to the “good old days.” The days when Whites governed. Blacks and other minorities knew their places. Women worked in the kitchen and bedroom and had children. Men were the breadwinners and on a miners, truck drivers, postal workers, or other blue-collar job could raise a family of six and still have a few bucks left over to go down to the local pub after work for a couple of brews with buddies.
You did not have to be politically correct around gays who were called fags, or disabled people who were called gimps. Mexicans came over to do the farm work and went back to Mexico. Other minorities were given visas and possibilities of becoming US citizens but in much smaller quantities than for White Europeans. School is where you went to get a diploma, play sports and maybe go to college. No one was worried about being shot in a mass shooting. Guns were plentiful but were mainly used for hunting and target practice. Shooting someone for taking your parking space, was unheard of. (Man killed during fight over parking spot)
It was a time when the USA ruled the roost. China, Russia, Korea and the Mideast did not dare or would not dare to challenge us. We had a cold war but until Vietnam, we had peace and prosperity. Religion was a place that taught morals and values. The separation of church and state was still believed in by most people. The TV show “Happy Days” captures some of the nostalgia for the “Good Old Days.” Days that might have been very happy for some Americans but definitely not for others. It was also a time of Jim Crow laws that relegated many African Americans to the “back of the bus” and to less than second rate jobs and education.

Unfortunately, the Democrats do not understand the Right-Wing nostalgia for the past. Harris intones “We will not go back.” She may win over minorities and progressive White people with this message but not with Trump supporters. It is the opposite of what Trump is promising. it conflicts with Trump’s message. Some have interpreted Trump’s message to “Make America Great Again” as a code for “Make America White Again.” I believe a more accurate interpretation for his followers would be to “Take America Back Again.” Back to Happy Days, back to a John Denver valley of peaceful tranquility. Harris wants to go forward but Trump supporters are cautious, going forward to what? Artificial Intelligence? Mars Expeditions? More fake internet information? More wars in unknown parts of the world like Gaza and the Ukraine? I want to go home. I want to go home.
I hear her voice in the mornin’ hour, she calls me
The radio reminds me of my home far away
Drivin’ down the road, I get a feelin’
That I should’ve been home yesterday, yesterday
Country roads, take me home
To the place I belong
West Virginia, mountain mama
Take me home, country roads
In my next blog, I will answer the second question that I posed above: “Why can’t any facts, data, evidence or Trump pronouncements change a Trump supporters mind?”