I have lost track of how many years I have been using Facebook. However, I have not lost track of all the times that people say to me “I never use Facebook (FB) because it is etc., etc.” They then proceed to give me a litany of reasons why they: 1. Have never used Facebook or 2. Why they think Facebook is useless. I have found the following four beliefs to predominate among the reasons why Facebook has been deemed as either useless or even dangerous.
- Facebook is a waste of time. It has too much stupid stuff and trivia.
I would be richer than Mark Zuckerberg if I had a dollar for every time I have heard “What do I care about what people had for breakfast today.” Great, you don’t want to know where I went, what I did, who I saw and what I eat? Use your little finger to scroll down or push delete or go to another site. I have lots of friends who do care and who want to know what I am doing. I have had many comments on my FB site such as “It was so much fun to follow you on your trip.” “I love your postings.” “Thanks for sharing.”
If you think my postings are trivial, meaningless, inane, or asinine, great. I respect your opinion. So “Defriend” me. Go elsewhere for your trivia. Find your daily dose of bullshit someplace else. But don’t criticize something you have never tried or condemn others because you find their lives not worth knowing about.
- Facebook can’t be trusted. They will sell valuable information about me.
Facebook is a business first and foremost. How do you think Zuckerberg got so rich? FB is full of advertising and advertisers want to know everything about you, so they can sell you stuff you don’t think you really need. They will convince you that you really need it. This has been going on since Moses convinced Pharaoh to let his people go.
Do I trust FB not to sell my innermost secrets? Do I trust Zuckerberg not to share information about me with advertisers, political marketers, vendors, pollsters and other information seekers? No more than I would trust hanging from the Empire State Building with my wife’s sewing thread. You must either be deaf, dumb or blind if you think you can trust anyone selling you something or giving you something for free not to have some hidden catch or some gimmick to get more money from you. Did you ever notice that FB is free or has that escaped your attention? What is free? Do you really believe it is free?
As far as information privacy goes, observe the following that I tell all my students and you will probably not have much to worry about. It goes like this: “If you want to protect your privacy, then do not text, tweet, photo, Instagram, email, voicemail or say anything in public that you would not put up on a billboard in downtown New York.” Period. That is the only way that you will protect your privacy today and I doubt even this admonition is full proof.
- Facebook is full of lies and “false” facts.
So, you want to make decisions based on evidence, data and facts? Facebook is no doubt full of bullshit, opinions, innuendo, conspiracies, lies and unsubstantiated claims beyond counting. The lies on FB are more numerous than the stars in the sky or the molecules in the universe. However, I will tell you a secret. There is no evidence, data or facts that are 100 percent true. Everything we know about the world is only based on theories buttressed by repetition or replication. The more our predictions happen, they more confident we are they are accurate. However, science in like the weather. You don’t count on the weather forecaster being 100 percent accurate unless you are a fool.
Throughout history, we have seen theories and facts overthrown by newer theories, newer facts and newer evidence that help better match reality with theory. The world was once flat, then it was round, now it is more elliptical. Our knowledge of everything keeps evolving and changing. Some people see it as a search for the TRUTH. However, the TRUTH does not exist or if it does, it is only like the wind. It will blow one way today and another way tomorrow. Facts, data and evidence have a probability of being accurate. They will never be 100 percent true. My father used to say, “believe nothing of what you hear and only half of what you see.” I have found this to be moderately good advice. It works very well on FB and on the Internet in general.
- Facebook should be a social media and not political.
“John, you are too political.” “I don’t want to hear your rants and raves.” “Why can’t you keep your politics out of your Facebook site.” “Facebook is for family and friends and should not be political.”
The splash page on my FB site now shows a picture of Elie Wiesel and a quote by him that reads “To remain silent and indifferent is the greatest sin of all.” He also said, “We must take sides. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.” Before this, my splash page had a picture of Martin Luther King and a quote by him that read, “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” “In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.”
I believe that living in a society and hence to be social means to be political. If you live in a society, politics is the coin of the realm that defines the rules and procedures that govern the interactions between human beings. No one can be apolitical in a society. To believe so is to lie to yourself. I put my politics out there. I don’t care if you like them or if you don’t. I want others to know that there is someone in the universe who probably feels like they do.
Before Trump was elected, I put up a Hillary sign in my front yard. My neighbor who was also a Hillary supporter came over to warn me. She said “John, I would not put that sign up in this town if I were you. It could be dangerous.” I decided to talk this over with my wife Karen. I did not feel that I had the right to jeopardize her safety as well mine. She said that she supported keeping the sign up. My decision was sealed by her willingness to risk whatever might happen by putting a sign up in a mostly pro-Trump rural town in Arizona. A week or so later, one of my good friends who lived nearby saw my sign. She asked me to if I could get her one. I did get her a sign and I think we might have had the only two Hillary signs up in our town.
I use FB as a means to share with others who in these rather trying times might have fears of speaking out or who might feel that they are alone. I want my friends to know that I am political and that I share with some of them the same beliefs, values and ideas that they have. I firmly believe that we cannot change our present problems or deal with issues by silence. However, if you don’t like my politics or ideas then you can do as so many others have and simply defriend me. Frankly, they say we are defined by the company we keep. I would rather keep company with those who share similar convictions about life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.
Time for Questions:
Do you use Facebook? Why or why not
Life is just beginning.
“You should protest about the views of people you disagree with over major moral issues, and argue them down, but you should not try to silence them, however repugnant you find them. That is the bitter pill free speech requires us to swallow.” — Julian Baggini