Last year at my 40th Demontreville Retreat, one of the exercises that we were given by the Retreat Master included a very challenging set of thoughts. The worksheet for the activity was labeled as “A Testament.” I took the worksheet and instructions home with me. It had fourteen tasks or reflections to complete. I did not desire to complete them during the retreat. It is now almost a year since my retreat, and I have decided to make the mental and emotional effort necessary to complete this “Testament.”
The worksheet started with these instructions:
Imagine that this is the last day of your life on earth. In the time that you have left, you want to leave a “Testament” for your family and friends. Each of the following could serve as chapter headings for your “Testament.”
5. These are ten of the greatest Insights that I have gained in the School of Life.
Friends are like flowers:
I have realized that friends are like flowers. They grow, they bloom and then some of them wither away over time. Some friends are like Perennials. They live for more than two years. They grow back each year as we renew them. They may bloom for many seasons. Over and over again. Other friendships are more like Annuals. Annuals have a much more limited life cycle. Sometimes, they are over in less than a year. They are beautiful when they last but somehow they are never destined for longevity.
Cowards die many times before their deaths:
A line from Shakespeare’s “Julius Caesar” that I have used my entire life to remind me that fear can be death. Fear can stop us from trying new things, going to new places and enjoying life. True, fear is a warning. However, fear can also be paralyzing. You have heard it said that some people are afraid of their shadows. As we get older, life closes in on us. Unless we can keep pushing back the boundaries, we will end up in a coffin long before it is our time.
Live for today. Take one day at a time:
So easy to say. So hard to do. All the great prophets in history have given paeans to the virtue of living one day at a time. Jesus said “”Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.”— Mathew, 6:34. Buddha said, “Don’t get caught in the past, because the past is gone. Do not get upset about the future, because the future is not yet here. There is only one moment for you to be alive, and that is the present moment.” — Knowing the Better Way to Live Alone. The Muslim preacher, Hasan al-Basri said, “The world is three days: Yesterday, with all that was in it, has gone. Tomorrow, you may never see it. As for today, it is yours, so work on it.” There are many more admonitions to live in the moment. Still, easier said than done.
I wake up making my lists each day. I plan some of them one week, one month, and even years out. Will those days ever come? The older I get, the less likely it is that a ten-year plan will ever come to fruition. It makes sense to live in the moment. Except, what about the grasshopper and the ants? They stored up grain for the future, while the grasshopper fiddled and danced. Who starved? A good friend of mine complains that it is not fair that state parks and other such venues do not operate on a first come first served basis. Today, if you do not plan for the future, you may not get a campground. Not planning for a future can mean even more dire prospects than not getting a campsite. It might mean not having any retirement money. It might mean not having any resources for health care and other necessities. There must be a balance between living for today and planning for tomorrow. Does anyone know a sure fire way to find that balance? Here is what ChatGPT said in response to my query:
Balancing living for today and planning for tomorrow can be a delicate act, but it is achievable with mindful practices and habits. Here are some strategies that can help:
Set Clear Goals: Define your long-term goals and break them down into smaller, manageable steps. This helps you focus on the present while keeping an eye on the future.
Prioritize Your Time: Make a list of your daily activities and prioritize them based on importance and urgency. This ensures you are spending time on what matters most, both for today and for your future.
Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness techniques, such as meditation and deep breathing, can help you stay present and enjoy the moment without constantly worrying about the future.
Create a Balanced Schedule: Allocate specific times for work, relaxation, hobbies, and social activities. This ensures that you are enjoying life now while also dedicating time to your future goals.
Financial Planning: Save and invest wisely to secure your future, but also set aside some money for leisure and experiences that bring you joy today.
Stay Flexible: Life is unpredictable, and plans may change. Being adaptable allows you to enjoy the present while being prepared for future changes.
Reflect Regularly: Take time to reflect on your progress and adjust your plans as needed. Regular reflection helps you stay aligned with your goals and make necessary changes.
Seek Balance in Health: Take care of your physical and mental health through regular exercise, a balanced diet, and sufficient rest. Good health enables you to enjoy the present and ensures longevity.
Enjoy Small Moments: Find joy in everyday moments and appreciate the present. Whether it’s a walk in the park, a good meal, or time with loved ones, these moments are valuable.
Continuous Learning: Invest in your personal and professional growth by learning new skills and acquiring knowledge. This not only prepares you for the future but also enriches your present life.
By integrating these practices, you can create a harmonious balance between living in the moment and planning for the future.
It took ChatGPT all of about one minute to come up with the above list. Pretty amazing isn’t it. I only wish I were as smart as she/he is.
Kindness is more important than knowledge:
This is a lesson that has taken me many years to learn. “Chicken Soup for the Soul” was a pivotal event in my life. The stories started me thinking more about kindness and less about acquiring a great deal of knowledge. I once thought that knowledge was everything. Knowledge was the path to virtue according to the Bible. Knowledge was power according to Sir Thomas Hobbes. Knowledge comes from a different place than kindness. Knowledge is necessary to make a living, but kindness is necessary to make a life. A human being must be more than just a collection of ideas and theories. We must be able to show compassion and empathy for other human beings and other creatures. Kindness will make more of a difference to the world than the Encyclopedia Britannica ever did.
We do not age like a fine wine, we age like bananas:
Whoever came up with the trope about aging and fine wine must never have grown old. The older I get, the more wizened I get. My wine is getting moldy. My face is getting wrinkled. Like an aging banana, I now am getting more and more black spots on my skin. Nobody throws a fine old wine away, but in a few years, just like a rotten old banana, my carcass will be disposed of. I am softer and mushy now. I once was firm and hard. Who likes a mushy old banana?
Don’t rely on Hope:
Hope may spring eternal in the human breast but hope never accomplished anything. It takes effort to make a life. It takes effort to go to work every day. It takes effort to do anything worth being done. You can hope your life away. Hope is a seasoning for life. You can season the meat, but you must then cook it. Hope can help you to have faith that you can change the world, but hope is not enough to get the job done. Patrick Henry spoke about “hugging the delusive phantom of hope.”
You can hope to win the lottery but unless you buy a lottery ticket, you have no chance of winning the jackpot. Hope can be a motivator, but running the 100-meter dash of life takes moving your legs to get to the finish line. Keep hope in perspective but don’t let hope become your whole life.
Life is about trying to make a difference:
We wake up each morning and what do we do? We say a prayer maybe. Maybe we have breakfast. We take a shower. We write a few lines. We go to work. What is the purpose of our life? If it is not to make a difference in the world, I don’t know what it is for. Is it simply to live another day? Is it just to have fun? “God Forbid” to quote Patrick Henry again. If the meaning of our lives is not to make a difference in the world, I don’t know what we exist for.
Sadly, we may never know if we make a difference. We are not born with a difference gauge that tells us which of our efforts is the most effective. Faith can make a difference here. Mother Teresa was once challenged by a reporter who asked her, “How do you know you are making any difference with all your poverty and charity work?” Mother Teresa replied, “I am not called upon to make a difference, I am called upon to have faith.” Faith guides us down the path of hope but we must be propelled by a desire to see a better world if not for ourselves than for our children.
Progress is made by people, ideas, and technology:
There are many theories of human progress. Karl Marx believed that materialism was the prime motivator and engine for change. “The essential condition for the existence, and for the sway of the bourgeois class, is the formation and augmentation of capital; the condition for capital is wage-labor.” — The Communist Manifesto, Karl Marx. Despite the fact that Marx has been refuted more times than I can count, his problem came not from his perspective, it came from his limitations of perspective. He was not able to see the difference that ideas, people, and technology could and do make on the world.
The argument as to which drives progress is really a chicken and egg dilemma. Or maybe it is more like a giant Mobius strip. Great men come up with great ideas which create great technology which creates new material goods which lead to new leaders who have new ideas for more progress. Around and around we go, but we always remain in one plane. A Möbius strip is a one-sided surface with no boundaries that looks like an infinite loop. Progress comes from going around and around and around. All the elements of the universe help motivate us around this single plane.
Whatever can be done, can also be undone:
The pundits are telling us that if Trump gets reelected he will abandon and even destroy all the foundations for democracy that still exist in the USA. His first attempt at doing so fell short but together with his minions, he will take another shot at it. Americans are deluded into thinking that democracy is indestructible.
Democracy is a set of ideas which when put into action creates a system of government. Sometimes this system works very well but often it is dysfunctional. Democracy has no guarantee of success if people no longer believe in the set of ideas that defined their democracy. There are only twenty or so true democracies in the world today out of over 180 different governments. “The Economist Democracy Index rates countries on the state of their governing system each year. In the latest published edition, corresponding to the year 2022, only 24 countries in the world have been rated as ‘full democracies’, representing 8% of the world’s population.” — The State of Democracy, April 2023
It is by no means inevitable that democracies will be created in the world or that they will be sustained. History has shown us over and over again that great empires fall, and democracies may not survive. Human beings seem to have an equal propensity to favor authoritarian governments as they do democratic governments. Recent events in the USA cannot be denied. America is full of people who do not believe in democracy and who would favor a tyrant and bully like Trump being elected for life.
Love surpasses everything:
If making a difference is the ultimate purpose of life than love is the ultimate meaning of life. We often love not too well and not too wisely, but love is the soul of our existence. Deprive humans of love and you deprive humans of the only thing that really matters in this world. A lonely life is one that saddens all of us. How many people live such lives? What can we do to help others who are not loved or who cannot share love with others? If we can stop manufacturing bombs and bullets to murder others, we might be able to work towards creating a world based on love. We may have faith and we may have hope, but unless we mix the ingredients for love and share them with others, love will remain only a dream.
Next Reflection:
6. These are the Risks I took.
Two thousand years ago, the Roman Empire started its decline after having been the greatest empire that the world had yet seen. Many historians point to the decadence of the Roman Empire during its decline. “Decadence” is defined by the Oxford On-Line Dictionary as, “Moral or cultural decline as characterized by excessive indulgence in pleasure or luxury.” The Romans had their “Bread and Circuses.” The Oxford Dictionary defines “Bread and Circuses” as, “A diet of entertainment or political policies on which the masses are fed to keep them happy and docile.” For many, football and politics are the bread and circuses or our American Empire. I think the rot and decay in America today goes much deeper than that. Here is my list of some of the decadence that I see in the USA today:
I have another T-Shirt where I list the “No Exceptions” groups that somehow seem to be conveniently overlooked by many Cultural Christians. The major fallacy that many Christians seem to observe is to define their neighbors as either someone in their own church or in their own social group. When Jesus included the Samaritans who were an outcast group at the time as his neighbors, this should have made it clear that you must go beyond your tribe or friends to include other nations, other ethnicities, other religions, and other people with different beliefs as your neighbor.
Despite attending forty 3-day Jesuit retreats and regularly going to church with my spouse, I remain adamantly somewhere between an Atheist and an Agnostic. See my blog 
I can see some positive sides to a church ideology that addressee inner spirituality, but I think it has serious drawbacks. You can focus too much on what I will call the “inner spirituality” of church members. The reasoning behind the emphasis on inner spirituality can be faulty. The theory is that if each member becomes a better Christian, they will be better neighbors towards others. If they feed the hungry and cloth the poor, they will be ridding the world of the evils that Jesus preached against. Unfortunately, these propositions are not evidenced by historical fact. For hundreds of years many Christians supported slavery and sexism by doing little or nothing to condemn or speak out against it. Furthermore, many Christians were major protagonists of racism and sexism. If their ministers spoke out against it, it obviously made little difference. Being a card carrying member of a Christian church never seems to correlate with ending war, sexism, racism, homophobia or even poverty. I think without an equal emphasis on “Outer Spirituality” Christianity is a worthless religion.
There are many definitions of spirituality. What does it mean to be a spiritual person? Some people lean towards accepting a higher being or creator. Some lean towards accepting a more conventional religious perspective. Many on-line definitions list several factors necessary to be a spiritual person. My own definition is much simpler. I think being a spiritual person involves two elements. The first is seeking meaning in one’s life. The second is seeking purpose. Meaning is inner spirituality. Purpose is outer spirituality. Meaning and purpose must go beyond what is simply good for oneself and must embrace what is good for humanity and the universe. Thus, a truly spiritual person is one who finds and balances inner and outer spirituality.
Thus, the uncoupling of Church and State in the constitution of the United States set the stage for a catastrophic imbalance between Moral Policy and Economic Policy. Over the years, the lack of influence in organized religions at the political level was abetted by the horrendous influence and power of Economic Policy. If Moral Policy was once the heart of a religion, it was supplanted by an Economic Policy which has become the main religion in America. This policy states that more is better and that you can never be too rich or have too much stuff.
What we once believed was a great political innovation to separate Church and State has led to this imbalance. There was no place in the state for religion and no place in religion for politics. America’s dominant dream for peace, justice and equality was replaced with a dream for more money, more power and more fame. The push by the State for this dream dwarfed any efforts by religion to provide a moral balance and the State had no legitimacy for morality. People are cast adrift amidst a chaotic and vicious ocean of competition for more and more stuff. No moral anchors exist that are powerful enough to counterbalance the tide of greed that this has brought to our shores. Guns have replaced morality as citizens arm themselves to prevent imagined attacks at taking away their STUFF.
I have often been accused of being a pessimist but there is nothing about this quote that is pessimistic. It is simply a fact that we must use our imaginations to see a different world and to believe that a different world can exist. As long as we are stuck in the same thinking that generated our problems, we are not free to consider alternative realities. We need more thinking about possibilities and the future. We are bogged down with what Dr. Deming called the “problems of today.” Deming said, “We must balance the problems of today with the problems of tomorrow.”
A Rabbi, Iman, Pastor and Buddhist Priest were all discussing the issue of peace in the world and in particular peace in the Mideast. The Rabbi said there could only be peace in the Mideast if all the Muslims left. The Iman said that there could only be peace if all the Jews left. The Pastor jumped into the argument and said there would only be peace if all the non-Christians left. The Buddhist cleared his throat to interrupt the argument and said, “There will never be peace anywhere as long as there are Muslims, Jews, Protestants, Catholics and even Buddhists in the world.” 
The peaceful person does not use violence against others. The peaceful person is a diplomat who solves problems with his/her brain and not with tools of aggression. The peaceful person is confident because they have integrity. The peaceful person has serenity because they have no fear. Fear is the enemy of peace. When the world is on red-alert, people live in fear. People become fearful of others and fearful of living. Racism, sexism, discrimination, greed, and militarism create fear. With fear, no one can be at peace. 
We should all be grateful for peace. This means we need to appreciate peace and understand that it cannot be taken for granted. Peace is up to us to create. It is too important to leave to religious leaders and politicians. If we want peace in our lives and peace in the world, we must create it. There can never be peace for anyone if there is not peace for everyone. 
Aging Capriciously 