Despite attending forty 3-day Jesuit retreats and regularly going to church with my spouse, I remain adamantly somewhere between an Atheist and an Agnostic. See my blog “75% Atheist and 25% Agnostic.” One of the concerns I share with a few friends is organized religions apparent lack of concern for many social issues. I have attended Catholic, Presbyterian, and Lutheran churches in the past few years, and I have yet to hear a pastor or priest in the pulpit denounce climate change, sexism, racism or White Supremacy in the USA. I have thought about this lack of social assertiveness by too many pastors. Even if many of the congregations in these mainstream churches are conservative if not right wing, do not their church leaders have a responsibility to address social problems? I have two theories why they do not.
My first theory is that they do not venture to oppose these social ills because they would lose bunches of their church members if not their actual ministerial jobs. It has happened before that church leaders have been kicked out by their congregations for preaching politics too strongly. On the positive side here, many church leaders would argue that they do address social issues. They give to the poor and needy with food banks and outreach efforts to help destitute families. Unfortunately, this is like throwing water on a burning house. You are dealing with the symptoms and not the causes.

My second theory why church leaders do not vocalize more contempt for egregious social problems is this. Perhaps they see their job as converting the inner spirituality of their congregation. Thus, leaders focus on helping members become better people and lead better lives. Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see.” By focusing on inner spirituality, they can convert the soul of their church members and perhaps help them to become the person that loves according to the Commandment of Jesus. “Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself” (Matthew 22:37–39).
I can see some positive sides to a church ideology that addressee inner spirituality, but I think it has serious drawbacks. You can focus too much on what I will call the “inner spirituality” of church members. The reasoning behind the emphasis on inner spirituality can be faulty. The theory is that if each member becomes a better Christian, they will be better neighbors towards others. If they feed the hungry and cloth the poor, they will be ridding the world of the evils that Jesus preached against. Unfortunately, these propositions are not evidenced by historical fact. For hundreds of years many Christians supported slavery and sexism by doing little or nothing to condemn or speak out against it. Furthermore, many Christians were major protagonists of racism and sexism. If their ministers spoke out against it, it obviously made little difference. Being a card carrying member of a Christian church never seems to correlate with ending war, sexism, racism, homophobia or even poverty. I think without an equal emphasis on “Outer Spirituality” Christianity is a worthless religion.

This issue which I call “Inner Spirituality versus Outer Spirituality” brings up a major conundrum in Christian thinking which has been the subject of many a lecture and paper. This dilemma is whether a Christian can be saved by faith alone or are good works also necessary. The apostle James says:
“So you see, faith by itself isn’t enough. Unless it produces good deeds, it is dead and useless. Now someone may argue, ‘Some people have faith; others have good deeds.’ But I say, How can you show me your faith if you don’t have good deeds?” — James 2:17-26 NLT
The viewpoint promoted by James has been dissected many times by the followers of Paul who argue almost the opposite. Paul wrote the following:
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.” — Ephesians 2:8-9 KJV
Most mainstream Protestants as well as evangelicals cling to the opinion of Paul. I have a deep skepticism over this acceptance of Paul’s opinion for two reasons. First, it is very self-serving. It is a lot easier to say “I believe in Jesus” than to walk in Jesus’s shoes or to commit to action that saves others rather than just faith. Secondly, Paul was never as close to Jesus’s teachings as James was. Why should Paul have more credibility than James who was one of the 12 apostles living with Jesus during his ministry? Again, I see Christians taking the easy way out. Jesus said:
“Not every one that saith unto me, ‘Lord, Lord’, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.” — Matthew 7:21-23 KJV
If you have ever been to an Evangelical church meeting, you will hear the name of Jesus dripping so often from the lips of parishioners that you might think they are all going straight to heaven after they leave church. The practices or works of many of these “devout” Christians is enough to make anyone divorce themselves from any association with Christianity. During President Obama’s term in office, the head pastor of the Westboro Baptist church repeatedly called for God to strike Obama dead. Finally, he was condemned and ostracized by many other Baptist preachers. Nevertheless, Baptists have never been known for condemning racism or sexism from the pulpit. I think the argument over faith versus works is a false dichotomy and strictly speaking no one can be a Christian unless they practice both. Whether or not this will get them to heaven is an open question since I do not believe heaven or hell exists.
This brings me back to the concepts of inner and outer spirituality. Much like the faith versus works argument it is a false dichotomy. However, I prefer to think in secular terms. In secular terms, spirituality does not mean practicing Christianity or any other religion. I don’t need faith to be saved. I need both an inner and outer spirituality.
There are many definitions of spirituality. What does it mean to be a spiritual person? Some people lean towards accepting a higher being or creator. Some lean towards accepting a more conventional religious perspective. Many on-line definitions list several factors necessary to be a spiritual person. My own definition is much simpler. I think being a spiritual person involves two elements. The first is seeking meaning in one’s life. The second is seeking purpose. Meaning is inner spirituality. Purpose is outer spirituality. Meaning and purpose must go beyond what is simply good for oneself and must embrace what is good for humanity and the universe. Thus, a truly spiritual person is one who finds and balances inner and outer spirituality.
My understanding of the great prophets like Buddha, Moses, Jesus, Mohammed, Guru Nanak, and Baha’u’llah are that they all preached a concern for humanity and the universe that went well beyond what was simply good for the individual. Some quotes illustrate what I am talking about:
Buddha: “If you light a lamp for somebody, it will also brighten your path.”
Moses was a lawgiver who gave the Israelites the Ten Commandments “You shall not steal, nor deal falsely, nor lie to one another.”
Jesus: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”
Mohammed: “The best among you is the one who doesn’t harm others with his tongue and hands.”
Guru Namak: “He who regards all men as equals is religious.”
Baha’u’llah: “Do not be content with showing friendship in words alone, let your heart burn with loving kindness for all who may cross your path.”
I think you can see from the above quotes that each of these great prophets embraced the idea of a goodness that extended beyond the self to all of humanity. There are many other great prophets as well as great philosophers. What has made them all great is a burning desire to help the world become a better place than they found it.

We all have a choice. We can take care of ourselves and acquire as much money, fame, and power as we can. Or we can let go of stockpiling material things and help the world be a healthier place. A place where everyone can live in peace and harmony with nature and its other species. In some ways it is a matter of choosing life or death. The present path is destroying us. The Club of Rome report called “Limits to Growth” was ridiculed when it was published in 1972. Over fifty years later and no one is laughing at the climate catastrophes that materialism and over consumption have brought upon the earth. We were warned fifty years ago to start dealing with the problem now. Is it too late? Perhaps, but we lose nothing by trying. We will surely lose our souls if we do not try.










Nevertheless, we still have the occasional spat, and they usually leave us both feeling quite depressed and disappointed. I am mostly disappointed with myself for not handing things well. It seems I too often say things or discuss things very differently than we have agreed on. We have found and used many models for dealing with conflict. One of our favorites is the “DESC” model. This stands for “Describe” what is happening in neutral terms. Talk about how this makes you feel in terms of “Emotions.” “Specify” what you would like to see happen differently. Define what the “Consequences” will or could be for change. Consequences are best provided that are positive, such as we will feel closer together. When we stick to this model things seem to go well. Our discussions stay on track and our resolutions come more effortlessly. When we stray from the model, accusations and insinuations escalate and the discussion becomes difficult if not painful.
The other kind of kindness I will call “Emotional Kindness.” This is not doing things but saying things either verbal or non-verbal that honor and appreciate the other person. It respects their feelings more than their actions. It might be “I love you” or it might be an appreciation of something the other person says or thinks. It is building up the other person’s self-esteem and not putting down anything they might express or care about.


Once upon a time a mother had two daughters. The Mom’s name was Teresa. The oldest daughter was named Romela, and the younger daughter was Amelia. At the time of this story, the oldest daughter was 20. Amelia had just turned 18. Teresa was 45 and a single mom. Their father had been gone for ten years after running off with their babysitter. Teresa never remarried or even dated. She was a rather plain looking woman. Marriage had taught her that men preferred sex appeal over brains, beauty over character and youth over age. She tried to teach these lessons to her daughters and kept a close watch on both.







What does anxiety and uncertainty have to do with planning? This is an important connection. Uncertainty in my opinion either causes or leads to anxiety. The more uncertain we are, the more anxious we become. Many people will not attempt new endeavors, leave home, eat new food, travel to new places, meet new people, take on adventures or worst of all “listen to new ideas.” The uncertainty of these efforts creates anxiety. The unknown consequences of doing something new brings some anxiety to most of us. Change and newness can impinge on our efforts to maintain equilibrium and homeostasis in our lives. New things can disrupt the natural order that we so carefully craft to protect ourselves, our family, and our identities. “What if” can bring fear and panic to even the most courageous of us.
However, when it comes to anxiety my solution is planning. Karen would say I plan too much. I don’t need to go raging into the night of old age, but I do not want to get in my crypt yet and turn off the lights. Life has a way of closing in on us. The curtains for each of us are indeed coming down and will someday be down for all of us, but we can slow their coming down. As we age, we must push back. Planning can help us to hold the curtains off for a little while longer. But remember, “Plans are nothing, but planning is everything.”
My theory is that I have been driven to reduce anxiety because I grew up with an abusive father. My childhood was a daily diet of fear and uncertainty as to when or how badly my father would fly off the handle and take it out on me. He might have had a bad day at the races, or something went wrong with his car, and it was all my fault. So many things became my fault that I was always looking up expecting the sky to fall on me. I looked under my bed and, in my closet, every night before going to sleep as a kid. Years later I would check under my car and in my back seat before getting in my vehicle. I never let anyone get on the inside track of me when walking down a sidewalk and I always look over my back when going to a public John. I am not paranoid, and I do not think anyone is out to get me. I simply want to be certain that I have an advantage just in case someone might be out to get me. 😊 Karen has learned to cope with my rather bizarre behavior and attributes it to my intrinsic anxiety.



The “Good Old Boys” of modern country music started in the seventies telling us that rural people were good people. That real life took place in rural areas. Cities were evil. Rural people were God fearing and patriotic. City people were heathens and atheists.
Donald Trump’s anthem was a song by Lee Greenwood called “God Bless the USA.” Under more normal circumstances, I would applaud this song. Greenwood won the Country Music Association’s award for Male Vocalist of the Year in 1983 and 1984, and his “God Bless the USA” had been awarded the CMA’s Song of the Year honors in 1985. However, when welded by Trump and his supporters it evokes overtones of racism and xenophobia. What else can you think when you see people marching around with Swastikas and Confederate Flags singing “God Bless the USA?”
“This practice is no certain note of patriotism. To instigate the populace with rage beyond the provocation, is to suspend public happiness, if not to destroy it. He is no lover of his country, that unnecessarily disturbs its peace. Few errors and few faults of government, can justify an appeal to the rabble, who ought not to judge of what they cannot understand, and whose opinions are not propagated by reason, but caught by contagion.” — The Patriot, by S. Johnson, 1774.




A friend of mine once told me that you catch more flies with sugar than you do with vinegar. Over the years, I have been told that I am too negative. I have been labeled as a pessimist who more often sees the bad things in life rather than the good things. I have been accused of being a skeptic and even a nihilist. I have decided to turn over a new leaf. I am determined to share more positive thoughts in my blogs. I want you to see the world as a wonderful place full of joy and good will. I was going to start my new focus next year, but I decided “why wait.” “He who hesitates is lost.” Thus, I give you the secret to living the life that I am sure you want to live. Just BE:
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